my work and hobby hours...

[Use Less]

Since retiring from my day job, I've built a nice little business that brings in some $$, but especially keeps my mind and fingers occupied. I also enjoy some classes and clubs that are offered in my area. The problem is, while dh says he supports these and wants me to enjoy myself, he doesn't participate. Nor does he have many interests of his own, or that I could share. The things I want to do are mostly evenings/weekends. There are also some great training courses, events or festivals I could go to, to increase my knowledge and enjoyment. Ditto, he doesn't care to go along. He is not working, though he says he wants to. I find myself saying no a lot lately, to keep him company, be home for supper, etc., but that bothers me sometimes. Life is short, and opportunities don't come along all the time. Ideas?

[Smalltowngirl]

If you're both home during the day, then I'd just go to what interests me in the evenings/weekends. It's not like you're not asking him to go along. Maybe you could discuss what you both would enjoy and try to set an activity every couple of weeks that you both will like. After that, just enjoy your interests as he enjoys his; just make sure you still spend time together- being together either during the day or in the evening doesn't really matter as long as you enjoy time together.
You are right, life is way too short to stay home & wait for the Grim Reaper; grab every bit of happiness out of the time we are given.

[Maura]

Be nice, ask him to come along. When he says no, go by yourself. Over time you are only going to resent him if you miss out on stuff "because of him". It's not because of him, it's because you wouldn't go without him. Go.