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08/17/12, 06:02 PM
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Why can't anything ever work out?
UGH...so frustrated and upset today. My poor DIL messaged me in tears this morning. She was all set to start college this week and now the school has notified her that there's a problem with her FAFSA (they are wanting verification of her SSN) and, since today is the last day of registration, she is ineligible to attend this semester. She's heartbroken.
On top of that they are having trouble with their car so my son took it to a mechanic who said it was a broken flywheel and sent him to a transmission shop. Two days later he has to pay $350 labor costs and the car is still not running right because the transmission place couldn't find anything wrong with the flywheel or transmission. So he walks to the place today to get the car and it quit on him on his way home. He put it in neutral to push it off the road. Somehow he managed to let the door shut and it locked. So there he is with his car in neutral, in someone's driveway and it is locked. Last I talked to him he was having a meltdown and trying to decided if he should bash in the window or find a clothes hanger and try to unlock it.
The place he was supposed to start working at two weeks ago is still postponing his starting day, so he's fed up with them. Wants to get a job (which is a HUGE deal for him) but needs the car. He is so upset and frustrated with life today that I'm sure he's going to have a major Bipolar meltdown.
I just want to sit here and cry myself.
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08/17/12, 06:10 PM
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Very big huggs!
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08/17/12, 06:14 PM
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Sorry to hear about your family's troubles.  That's a lot going on at once. You'd think the college would have notified her some time ago that they were having a problem - not real fair of them to wait until the deadline. No way of faxing her SS# card to them? Though, I'd be uncomfortable with doing so myself.
What a lot of stress for your son as well.
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08/17/12, 06:20 PM
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All I can say...this too shall pass and the sun will shine again.
Big Hugs to you and family.
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08/17/12, 06:21 PM
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If the school just notified her today, and she met all of the deadlines, I am sure they will make an exception. she needs to get down there and stand in someones office until its taken care of. Taking the baby with her might get it resolved even sooner (if baby starts crying, they might want to help her out and move her along quicker, KWIM?) Thats what I would tell my daughter...
Sorry about your sons car. I know nothing about bi polar meltdowns, but will your granddaughter be safe?? the word just sounds a bit scary
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08/17/12, 06:22 PM
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well maybes its a good thing his work place is postponing maybe he can get the car fixed before they call him to come into to work.
i know what its like to just have things coming at you from every angle, that has been my life for the last five months---to the point where i doubt i can take any more. but what doesnt kill ya makes ya stronger. too bad when you are going thru it it doesnt seem that way. they will survive and i hope you can help them realize this, and help them understand they still have a sweet little baby in their life. it will be so much sweeter when it does turn around for them. i wish them the best of luck.
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08/17/12, 06:41 PM
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I could just sit down and cry with you. We can't have pure happiness in our own life if one of our children is hurting.
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08/17/12, 06:50 PM
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I am so sorry to hear that your son is having trouble.... I can imagine how difficult it is to be so far from them...
((((((HUGS))))))))
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08/17/12, 06:58 PM
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I'm thinking I might go over there Monday, get her to the school, etc. and see if we can get something worked out. Hubby will blow a gasket, but whatever.
The job is within walking distance, so it didn't really matter if the car was running for son to start work. He just didn't like leaving DIL and baby home without a phone or working car.
Baby is in no danger. Son will rant and rave, which may scare the baby and make her cry and then he will feel like a total jerk. Hopefully, he'll walk all his anger out on the way home.
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08/17/12, 07:01 PM
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Ravenlost, I am so sorry that things are going so rough for you and your family. Sometimes it seems like when it rains it pours. And I understand your anticipation for the bipolar meltdown, they aren't any fun. We will be praying for them and you as well.
God bless you and yours
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08/17/12, 07:18 PM
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I'm thinking I might go over there Monday, get her to the school, etc. and see if we can get something worked out. Hubby will blow a gasket, but whatever.
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I hope things settle down for them, but......she's an adult, shouldn't she be able to work this out herself?
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08/17/12, 07:36 PM
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Sounds like this is a test. It'll pass. Just take it one step at a time and focus on what you CAN do.
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08/17/12, 08:07 PM
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Have him call a car dealership with the VIN number and they can make him a new key, much cheaper than replacing a broken window. He can ask if a courtesy driver could drop the key off since he won't be able to pick it up. Or maybe you can call for it and pay over the phone while he calms down.
I'm sorry they are struggling, I've had days like that more often than I can count.
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08/17/12, 08:37 PM
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I hope things settle down for them, but......she's an adult, shouldn't she be able to work this out herself?
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She also has bipolar disorder, is a nursing mom with no one to babysit and has no car. The campus is a good 25/30 miles away (she was planning to take online classes). She has done everything she could do on her own. Now she needs some help.
Son managed to get the car unlocked with a coat hanger and it started again so he got it out of the stranger's driveway and to a parking lot. He's definitely spiraling out of control right now so I didn't talk to him long as it seemed to be agitating him.
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08/17/12, 08:50 PM
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As the grandmother of a bp gal, I can identify with what's going on and how you are trying to bipass any more problems for them. Hope the job starts soon and the school issues can be worked out for your dil. Hard to sit back from miles away and not be able to help, isn't it? Perhaps the car is just overheating and it's a simple thing to fix. They'll learn to navigate the maze of life eventually! Good luck and hugs to you all
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08/17/12, 09:13 PM
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It's very hard.
I tried to tell him we've been lucky he's had few problems with a car that is 14 years old that we paid less than $2000 for, but he's so frustrated he didn't want to hear it. He's mostly frustrated that we've paid $400 so far to mechanics and the car still isn't fixed.
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08/18/12, 03:41 AM
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Things will work out. Life can just be very hard sometimes.... My DD has had lots of troubles since she's moved on on her own. She has a learning disability and is bipolar too. I spend my nights often totally sleepless worrying about her.... I totally understand how you're feeling. Hugs.
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08/18/12, 05:27 AM
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Sometimes it just seems like we have a really bad day or week or even longer. It will get better soon for them But it's great that you can go down there & help get things straightened out a bit. I'm sure that will make them feel a little better too.
I do hate when it's one thing go wrong after another though.
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08/18/12, 06:00 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Ravenlost
It's very hard.
I tried to tell him we've been lucky he's had few problems with a car that is 14 years old that we paid less than $2000 for, but he's so frustrated he didn't want to hear it. He's mostly frustrated that we've paid $400 so far to mechanics and the car still isn't fixed.
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I dont blame him. That would grind anyones gears. I get really aggravated when stuff like this happens. I hope he finds a good mechanic that is honest and fair. Ours is a God send.
I also think its hard on you, because you are not right there to help them out. RL, I will keep your family in my prayers. 
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08/18/12, 08:32 AM
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((((hugs)))) I hope things are better today!
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