Lost my mother yesterday....

[Katskitten]

I lost my mother yesterday. Since I'm too upset to think straight I copied what my husband put on one of his forums.

GRACE LOIS DAVIS GOUTY
November 28, 1914 - February, 15, 2012

We've had a rough winter here in IL. Mostly due to emotions caused by the rapidly declining health of my MIL and also because of our health concerns.

My MIL Grace Gouty:

was 97 her last birthday and not long after that just started going down hill. The SIL in charge had put her in a home she didn't want to be in last year and two of the other SILs tried to pry her away from the one SIL and bring her home to IN, but they couldn't get it done. The family squabble over my MIL tore my wife up pretty bad.
She wanted to help bring her mom home but just couldn't.

Last night sometime Grace Gouty went home. We got the news third hand from one of my wife's sisters who got it from some cousins. Nothing from the sister in charge.

There will be a memorial service in Denver which none of the other daughters or sons will be able to attend. Then sometime this summer the daughter in charge will bring her ashes back to Ft Wayne to be spread in the same place her husband's were back in 90.

I hate family squabbles, they serve no good purpose and only cause pain and heartbreak.

The last time I saw Grace was 2 years ago when she came to Ft Wayne to visit some of the other family. We made the trip over there just to see her. She was kinda feeble like all older folks eventually get, but her spirits were high. We hugged and I asked her how she was doing. She replied with an ornery grin: "Any body I can".

I was accepted by her as a future son in law almost immediately. This caused some disconcert by some of the other daughters husbands who she took a long time to accept. But I guess we kind of clicked right off.

My wife can't cry yet. But it's all I've been able to do to keep myself from crying. I miss that old lady.

We got a pic via email of her at her high school graduation. My oh my was she a beauty. Here's that pic.
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She had 9 children, 3 sons, 6 daughters. My wife was 7 of 9.

Rest in Peace Grace. Hope to see you when my turn comes.

Joe

Elaine

[Just Little Me]

I am truly sorry for your loss. Prayers to you and the family.

[Ravenlost]

I am so sorry. My heart goes out to you and your family.

[JuliaAnn]

I'm so sorry for your loss. The first photo is so sweet, what a beautiful lady! You and your family have my prayers.

[kasilofhome]

Hug your wife. What a beautiful posting from a SIL. The love shared shines thur.

Hugs..so sorry for your loss! Your mom was a beautiful woman.

[tallpines]

I'm sorry----

[Sonshine]

My prayers for you and your family. Your Mom sounds like a very special lady.

[Molly Mckee]

I'm so sorry.

[AR Cattails]

I'm sorry for your loss. Praying for all in your family during this difficult time.

[galfriend]

Sorry for your great loss.
My prayers and condolences to you and all your family.

[AngieM2]

So sorry for your loss, and for all the family issues around it.

[Heidi]

So sorry for your loss...no matter when we lose our mother's it is always too soon.

[Paumon]

Condolences to you and your family on your loss.

[EDDIE BUCK]

Prayers for family and friends.

[SageLady]

So sorry for your loss. It is always so hard to lose your Mother.

[HilltopDaisy]

I'm so sorry.

[naturelover]

My condolences to you and your family. The loss of a mother is always a hard one. She was a beauty indeed even into her venerable old age and judging by the pictures her name, Grace, was suited to her.

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[wingnut64]

Wow.
She had a good long life and you can tell from the pictures what a lively spirit.
It's hard, but know that her spirit is now free from the body that couldn't keep up with her.
She's much happier now and try not to let the family squabbles cause you more grief.

[farmmom]

I'm so sorry for your loss and for the tension in you family at this time. My prayers go out to you.