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12/31/11, 12:12 AM
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right or wrong?
I am gonna try and write this as short as I can. This is about my grandson who just turned 12 years old. His father and mother are going thru a divorce at the moment and it is not going well. They both have joint custody at the moment. Well this 12 year old boy, is as most 12 or 13 year old boys are, just starting puberty and very curious about his body. Not sure of a better way that I can explain it, hope you get my drift. Well his mother I guess found him in his room alone one day exploring. Instead of just talking to him and telling him the facts of life and so on, she goes out for Christmas and buys him a "blow up doll"!! I am really upset with her over this. I am so confused in my mind about all the things that can happen with her doing this. If he goes to school and his friends "hear" of this, he will sure take a ribbing about his new "girlfriend" i am sure of it. Another thing, is could this lead him into other things after he tires of it? It really worries me. I have never heard of a mother doing this before. Am I over reacting or is this new to the times now? So many things have went thru my head since this has happened. I just don't know what to do and how to handle it. Thank You for your thoughts on it.
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12/31/11, 12:17 AM
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12/31/11, 12:19 AM
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at 12, he shouldn't even know what a blow up doll is!
Warped indeed!
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12/31/11, 12:21 AM
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not sure how you can handle it, you are NOT over reacting. It is just so wrong. Maybe the father should have full custody.
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12/31/11, 01:36 AM
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Wow, that sounds really weird that she would buy that for him.
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12/31/11, 05:32 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by NickieL
at 12, he shouldn't even know what a blow up doll is!
Warped indeed!
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If the young lad has watched much television/movied he would know what a blowup doll is. Hardly a secret in this day and age.
I fully agree that she acted very strange by buying that for him. Wouldn't have a clue how to correct her error--a pin perhaps.
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12/31/11, 05:57 AM
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She must have an inflated ego...sorry I couldn't resist. Yeah, that's wrong on every level.
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12/31/11, 06:36 AM
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Not good.
I'm still trying to get past my reaction on Christmas morning when I opened the package from "Mom". 
I wouldn't be able to look her in the eyes until I went blind! lol. 
She probably hasn't considered how the "authorities" might view that either, if word got out at school.
I wouldn't count on a store return policy - best thing would be the burn barrel and forget it ever happened.
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12/31/11, 07:41 AM
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It could help solve the custody issue. Your son needs to tell his lawyer. The judge will NOT look kindly on that behavior.
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12/31/11, 07:49 AM
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Wrong!!!!!
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12/31/11, 08:04 AM
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very, very wrong on so many levels. Dad needs to have custody of that kid because mom has NO clue!
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12/31/11, 08:07 AM
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She needs her head examined and dad needs to know what she bought.
This is wrong on so many levels.
Feel sorry for the boy.
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12/31/11, 08:35 AM
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Tell the father. This is unbelievable!
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12/31/11, 08:48 AM
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Maybe there is a good book recommendation for parents dealing with puberty (if she would read it anyway). I highly doubt a blow up doll is the answer. I'm trying hard not to be a "meddling gma", but if my daughter did that I would have to pull her aside and just tell her I'd let his dad handle it, or nature will, or whatever. Yep, I'd have to say something and pray my grandson wouldn't know I knew!! Poor guy!!
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12/31/11, 09:14 AM
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I feel like I'm in a different zone.
This, and without Vicodin!
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12/31/11, 09:22 AM
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Oh, ick!
Wrong on many levels!
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12/31/11, 09:33 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Alice In TX/MO
It could help solve the custody issue. Your son needs to tell his lawyer. The judge will NOT look kindly on that behavior.
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We Texas girls are of the same mind again.
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12/31/11, 09:39 AM
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I was always very open to teaching sexuality to my children. That includes knowledge of age - appropriate sexuality, and the necessary ways to avoid harming them thru inappropriateness. Yes, my children were viewing movies of home births at a young age- because I was a home birth instructior. Buying a blowup doll for a child- smacks of incest and pedophilia.
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12/31/11, 10:19 AM
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Sexual abuse is what I'd call it, and his dad would be finding out, as would the court-appointed GAL for the child. Quite probably CPS if nothing resulted from that.
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12/31/11, 10:25 AM
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I have a 13 yr old boy and there's NO WAY I would buy him something like that or allow him to have it if someone else bought it. At most I would buy him a book on puberty so he knows that what's happening to him is normal. My kid is so shy about matters of sex I can't imagine how this poor boy must have reacted to his MOTHER giving him something like that.
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