Baby fever..

LoneStrChic23 · #1 08/10/11, 01:01 PM

As odd as it is for me to say, I want a baby!

Was at the bank yesterday & a woman with 3 kids & a 2 week old infant was overwhelmed. I offered to hold the baby & sat down & showed the other kids aquarium pics on my phone while their mom dealt with her business. It was just a brief moment but my goodness, holding that lil one made me miss mine being babies so much.

I originally never wanted children.... my son was an "oopps" I discovered at my physical to enter the AF.

Prior to the birth of my son the last baby I held was my brother who is 4 years younger than me......Babies were these smelly, loud beings that did nothing other than make me feel awkward......

Now I have 2 children, my youngest is 6 & they truly are my best friends.... But they are growing up sooo fast!

I guess it's just the combination of mine growing so big, & all the newborns I've been around this summer (two of our friends, one of hubby's cousins & my step sister had babies recently) bringing on this baby fever, but I do wish I could have another one.....

Or, at the very least I'd love to slow down time a bit & keep mine little for just a bit longer..

jen74145 · #2 08/10/11, 01:13 PM

I feel the urge to provide you with an oxygen mask and tell you to take deep slow breaths until the hallucinations pass. LOL

Do you want a baby/another child, or is it some adjustment to a new phase of life? Y'know, older, more self-sufficient kids over tiny nurslings, possibly they're out of the house and the quiet is a bit much... stuff like that? I get the occasional wish for another baby but then the reality of pregnancy sets in. If I could have a baby without being pregnant/having to rest postpartum, I'd be all over that. Alas, DH is not sure about adopting.

I am grateful to a friend of mine with a son the same age as ours; she went and had another baby, so I get to hold and fuss over him when she wants a break. Heh. He's darling. And not my responsibility. Lovely, that.

Mine's almost three. I love him. And any yearnings for more are quickly squashed by memories of the midwives/experience I had birthing him. Just how it is for me.

LoneStrChic23 · #3 08/10/11, 01:33 PM

LOL My sister in law said she'd also provide me with oxygen & perhaps therapy too.

I honestly would love to have another child...... My pregnancies were HORRIBLE. Vomited at least twice a day..... with my son that lasted all the way up until the morning he was born....with my daughter I had 3 vomit free days prior to her birth. My kidneys are shot....partially from a birth defect that required surgery to fix, & the pregnancies did quite a number on them. With my son, I was on bed rest for 3 months..... 6 weeks bed rest with my daughter... Toxemia persisted weeks past delivery & migrains that made me black out (still have no explanation for those, with my son they lasted about 3 months after he was born.....about 4 months after my daughter, then just vanished other than the random one that sneeks up on me every few months)...

Despite all of that, I'd love another child...

Not having one though as hubby was laid off from his job that provided insurance 2 1/2 years ago....he found other employment, but we can't afford the health issurance.....As it is now, I stash & save for the kids check ups/dental visits & prescriptions.....they have what they need, but I couldn't provide the same for another child.

So, as an alternative I "ohhhh & ahhh" over others babies, & am patiently awaiting the birth of my future puppy.....No, a puppy isn't a human child, but my goodness they are cute

jen74145 · #4 08/10/11, 02:02 PM

LOL, I'm about to start fostering kittens to squash any annoying lingerings.

Or you could adopt a child... I would love to but DH, ehh, we'll see. He's gone from "No way never" to "Hmm. In a few years... perhaps..." So I leave him alone about it and let him figure out what he wants on his own.

PATRICE IN IL · #5 08/10/11, 03:03 PM

I have a suggestion......if you are part of your local church volunteer in the nursery. You'll get your baby fix and be doing something wonderful for the parent's who would like to enjoy a service, child free.

oth47 · #6 08/10/11, 03:48 PM

This looks like a woman's thread,but I wanna chime in,too.I'm a man that loves babies,can feed them,bathe them,change poopy diapers and walk the floor with'em if need be.We had the 2 great grandkids in the house for the weekend,and I'd forgotten what a pleasure it is to handle a tiny baby,even in the middle of the night.The girl was born June 16th,and she's no bigger than a minute.Tiny hands with a mighty grip,cute little toes.I thank God for every minute I get to spend with the babies as well as the older ones.

Danaus29 · #7 08/10/11, 04:03 PM

I want one too!!!! Got to hold the neighbor's 6 month old for an hour a couple weeks ago and it really hit me then. (my youngest is 23 and determined that she never wants babies!!!)

No chance of another here. Because of my disabilities I wouldn't be able to endure another pregnancy. Bad enough that with dd it would take me 15 minutes to get out of bed in the morning.

Can't get a puppy either. Ds is allergic to dogs.

dablack · #8 08/10/11, 04:11 PM

My wife and I had two of our own. My wife has heart problems so that was pretty tough. We wanted more but the heart thing was only going to get worse. We adopted a 3 year old little boy and his 1 year old sister. They are great kids and we feel very blessed to have them.

We feel the same way about them as our two natural kids. Being a different race than us, we do get some looks (not bad ones, just wonderment) when we go out but that is it.

Austin

TxHorseMom · #9 08/10/11, 04:56 PM

I am lucky. I work in Labor & Delivery/Nursery and am around babies 12hrs a day (x 4 days, or nights in my case) and I can play with them a bit then send them back to mama. It really helps ease the "baby fever". I also have my 2 y/o granddaughter (how can that be!? I'm only 28! lol) living with us, and it reminds me that those cute little babies turn into terrible twos. So, fortunately, the baby fever doesn't last too long. A puppy DOES help some. It gives you something to take care of that's warm and cuddly.

jamala · #10 08/10/11, 05:06 PM

I get the "fever" every now and then and my hubby reminds me that those sweet babies turn into hormonal teenagers. So I am going to be content with my two teenagers and 5 year old. And pray for grandkids in the future.

Maura · #11 08/10/11, 06:57 PM

The foster care system could use loving adults to take care of children who have been taken from their homes. You can specify the ages.

Jan Doling · #12 08/10/11, 08:48 PM

When DD16 has one of her moods, I try to remember her cute babyhood. Unfortunately, I have about 2 minutes of cute memories vs hours of moodiness!

NickieL · #13 08/10/11, 08:58 PM

I'm the opposite...not a huge baby fan. Sure, they are OK but I don't like holding them and all that. I really don't think they are that "cute". Now when they get to be 2 and up, kids are great. They are a blast. I love my friend's kids and the neighbor kids. They are so funny.

lemonthyme7 · #14 08/10/11, 09:03 PM

I have 2 great kids (now 23 & 19) but always wanted a third but it never happened. I guess it was just not meant to be. My sister has 6 and when I found out she was pregnant with her 7th (not planned) I admit I went home and cried bitter tears. I love my sister so never let her see anything but that I was happy for her but I just felt SO upset that she could have so many and I really wanted another baby. Then she had a miscarriage and I felt really terrible. I am resigned now that it was never meant to be as I am 47 now and that hope is gone - now I look forward to grandbabies some day! At least I can send them home when they fuss!

LoneStrChic23 · #15 08/10/11, 09:15 PM

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Originally Posted by NickieL

I'm the opposite...not a huge baby fan. Sure, they are OK but I don't like holding them and all that. I really don't think they are that "cute". Now when they get to be 2 and up, kids are great. They are a blast. I love my friend's kids and the neighbor kids. They are so funny.

LOL.....this was me..... I didn't even think my own son was a pretty newborn (squished nose was pretty awful for the first few hours, then he was beautiful)...

As to adoption, I'd love that, but as stated before I don't have health insurance, I pay all the kiddos medical/dental with cash.... I make it work, but I couldn't afford that for a 3rd child (my DD6 has asthma & her Xopenex is pricey). We had a friend try the adoption route & was put through insane hoops & after several years of waiting, adopted from China instead.....

My hubby is a baby guy too..... He has always been very hands on with the kids.... in fact I didn't change my 1st diaper until my son was 9 days old!

We'd love another child, but the economics just don't work out.....so I steel snuggles from other babies & wait for a puppy

I'm babysitting my friend's 2 month old overnight Saturday so I'll get plenty of baby snuggles, won't put her down for a second & send her home so spoiled her momma probably won't let me keep her again

wanda1950 · #16 08/10/11, 10:11 PM

I miss my son's baby years very much. He was a late in life baby & there wasn't time or energy to have more. Nothing is as sweet as holding an infant except maybe when they start laughing. MY baby was beautiful--he was by C-section & had a perfect head & not squashed at all.

Fortunately, I have a velcro kitty who loves to be held.

Grandmotherbear · #17 08/11/11, 07:28 AM

I empathize. I was 31 when I married Grandfatherbear and I had baby fever from age 32 to age 50. Lost a baby at age 35. Never got the emotional support I needed and wanted. Grandfatherbear kept me reined back on relationship with grandson, reminding me he wasn't OUR baby. Grandson is now 17. I don't feel that special closeness with any granddaughters.
I always thought that menopause- the lack of ability to concieve and carry a child-would be horrible and cause a terrible depression, but it sneaked up on me. One day I realized I hadn't had a period in a year or more. I'm already depressed over a lot of things, and didn't notice any particular worsening with my realization of lost fertility. It's good you can interact with your friend's baby without bitterness. I couldn't be around pregnant women or babies (except dd and dgs) for over 10 years.
I've tried to talk about it with Grandfatherbear and still never gotten any emotional support. My daughter lost 2 pregnancies last year and totally withdrew for from me and couldn't/ wouldn't talk to me. Her birthday was 7/27 and we've just stopped trying to get her on the phone or to call back.

ginnie5 · #18 08/11/11, 08:18 AM

I never thought I would say this ..... but I am done. My arms used to just ache when mine would get to a certain stage. My "baby" is 6 though now and just spent his first week away from home with the grands. It was kind of a rough week for me but he wasn't homesick at all and had a blast. He was glad to see me when I picked him up though. But I really am enjoying where I am in life right now. Now grandbabies are another story! I absolutely cannot wait for them!

lamoncha lover · #19 08/11/11, 08:49 AM

Oh my I agree
seek treatment!
Never been a baby person. I think they are cute from about 6 months to 2 yrs. Then They should all go back.
I have raised or am raising 7 children. God has a sense of humor for sure!

mekasmom · #20 08/11/11, 09:08 AM

I think all females, and some males, always long to have a baby. It's just part of our make up to be a mama. It's a God-given desire.