I am unhappy with myself

Nomad · #1 02/09/11, 01:21 PM

My daughter designed three new Valentine's Day cards to put on a site that sells cards. She made the drawings two weeks ago and I did the listings for her as soon as she sent them to me, one one day and the other two the next day. Unfortunately she forgot the apostrophe in Valentine's and I missed it as well. So today an e-mail comes from the site saying the first card was returned for edit. We had to put in the apostrophe where it was missing and then resubmit. The other two will be coming back as well I'm sure. I tried to fix the problem but the stupid site wouldn't let me delete the art work on the card, so I couldn't put in the corrected version. I was so mad I wrote and asked them why they didn't just wait until after the holiday to tell us they needed to be fixed. I thought the cards were nice, and now it turns out not one person ever got to see them. I'm mad at the site for taking so long to tell me about the problem, but I'm more mad at myself for not catching the mistake. The poor kid is so discouraged because she hasn't sold any cards, and now this. Anyway, this was just a rant and I take full responsibility for her not getting any cards on in time. Based on the way things go there I should probably have her start on the 4th of July cards now. The funny thing is when I listed a card last year for any occasion it was returned for edit in one day. I wonder if they play favorites? OK, I'm done.

Nomad

grandmajo · #2 02/09/11, 01:26 PM

Rant away Nomad, we're here for you!
Give your daughter a big hug and tell her that you're proud of her. I'd happily buy one of her cards too

Nomad · #3 02/09/11, 01:40 PM

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Originally Posted by grandmajo

Rant away Nomad, we're here for you!
Give your daughter a big hug and tell her that you're proud of her. I'd happily buy one of her cards too

Thanks. Maybe you would like to wait for another holiday when we can get something ready in time. I don't do hugs or many positive words. I was raised in a household where those things were nonexistant and it left me pretty distant. I may think nice things, but for some reason I am unable to act on them. Gee, I wonder why both of my girls are in therapy? I guess that is stuff for another thread.

Nomad

grandmajo · #4 02/09/11, 01:57 PM

Don't feel bad, I was raised in a similar household. My ex husband's family was very huggy and it was really uncomfortable for me when I first got to know them.

But gradually it became the norm. And gradually I started to hug my parents when I would leave after visiting them. My dad was hilarious, he acted like he didn't know what to do with his arms the first time I hugged him. Now he and my mom line up when we get ready to leave. So see, it's never too late to start!

I would still buy one of her cards, you just say when she has some available. I believe that all a person needs is one chance in life via a little encouragment so that they can be all that they can be

uncle Will in In. · #5 02/09/11, 04:09 PM

Nomad <> How about taking a snow blower and going over and burying their cars in snow? (With the windows open) LOL

NickieL · #6 02/09/11, 06:11 PM

Oh nomad, that's a shame. Sorry but don't get too down on yourself, lesson learned!

As for the hugs, I never knew what hugs were untill I was away from home, seriously. All my friends were really huggy then and I leaned a good strong sqeeuzing hug feels down right nice on a bad day but back then they unearved me LOL So I'll pat you on the back instead and say you did a good job to have such a creative daughter.

Homely · #7 02/09/11, 08:04 PM

I'm sorry this happened. Don't let her give up!

Ruby · #8 02/09/11, 09:04 PM

Sorry about the cards, next time will be better.

As for as the hugs. My parents weren't the huggy type either. But I would give ANYTHING if I could remember my dad hugging me. I knew he loved me and I was always a daddy's girl but he never hugged me. In fact I don't remember him and my mother ever hugging. He was a truck driver and he would kiss her good-by when he would leave and give me a peck on the check.

A person just don't know what a hug can mean to the person they care for. It is something that could give them comfort when your gone from this world when they think of you.

Nomad · #9 02/10/11, 09:16 AM

There was only one time I was shown any physical affection. My mother and I were sitting on the couch when I was about 12 years old looking at old pictures and she had her arm around me. It must have left quite an impression, because I can still remember how good it felt. The wife's family are huggers. Every time we see her sister she grabs me and makes me hug her. I just cringe and she squeezes harder. It is really uncomfortable for me. It's not that I'm too old to change, I just really don't want to. I'm happy being me. I really should give more positive feedback to the girls though. It's just very hard for me to give a compliment. I was never good enough and never heard anything positive, and I guess that has carried over and now I am unable to say good things to my family. But I am just as critical of myself. When I was making furniture for people they would rant about how wonderful it was. Of course I would have to point to a microscopic spot under an edge or something and say look at the flaw there. I'm just not right in the melon. Oh well, I'll just keep bumbling along for the time I have left and do the best I can.

Nomad