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05/23/08, 09:04 AM
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I did a stupid thing today - car accident
Oh what a way to end the week! Had to drive the truck to work today and drop the trailer off at a friends to use. Ran to the post office before work and as usual was in a hurry. Backed out of the parking space and shifted to drive and heard a crunch  . I had been such an idiot and left the tail gate down when I unhooked the goose neck trailer. Backed into a tiny little car behind me. Thankfully noone was hurt and she worked at the post office and knows us so she was nice about it. Even gave me a hug since I was upset and kept telling her how sorry I was. Broke her brake light and took paint off the corner of the tail gate on my truck. I felt so bad for causing damage to her car.
Hubby is mad beyond belief and started yelling when I called to tell him what happened. As if the accident was not bad enough. I am so not looking forward to a long weekend of having to hear about it. Why oh why didnt I see that car!
Sorry for the whine today I just needed to tell someone what happened without hearing how stupid I was and that I had clearly ruined the truck for life.
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05/23/08, 09:07 AM
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(((Mel))) I'm sorry your husband is giving you a hard time about it. I guess it could have been worse. I'm glad it wasn't.
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05/23/08, 09:12 AM
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((HUGS))
it was an accident... and a very MINOR one at that.
no one was hurt, cosmetic damage done and the other person involved gave you a hug afterwards. sounds like if you were ever to make a bad judgement call while driving, the way you did it was ideal...no injuries, no embarrassing tow trucks, looky-loos, or cops.
slow down - stay focused next time, not worth stressing over, poop happens
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05/23/08, 09:17 AM
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Hugs to you! I'm sorry your dh is over reacting to something so minor!
I'd hate to hear what he'd have said to me last fall. I was getting ready for a landfill run and put all the trash from the barn and shop into the back of the truck. The tailgate was down and the window on the cap was up. I backed up to the garage so I could get the trash from the house out through the garage and as I was backing, I heard a loud crunch and thought that I hit the house. Then I saw "black rain" and pulled forward. Seems the glass for the cap hit the gutter and shattered. I called my dh right away and thankfully, he didn't get upset about it. I was so mad at myself for doing something so dumb though! Hope your dh doesn't hold it against you for the whole weekend!
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05/23/08, 09:19 AM
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Don't feel bad. I've done stupider things. We are human. I have done way worse to my hubby's truck and went home crying about it and my husband just laughed at me and told me it was ok. "It's just a truck!", he said. Tell yours to get over it!
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05/23/08, 09:23 AM
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Tailgates take far less time to repair than bent feelings.
Perhaps your husband should watch where he's going.
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05/23/08, 09:26 AM
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Oh Mel, I really feel for you. My DH is the same way. Any stupid little thing I do ends up in a speech about how "he can never have anything nice without someone tearing it up for him!" Now, when he slid my car in the ditch, it was an "accident", not his fault!!
This is why I've never driven the four wheeler we've owned for four years, or the new Ford truck he bought 2 years ago. Figure it's easier to listen to him have a fit because I won't drive them than to have him go off on me for putting a tiny ding or scratch on them!
((Hugs)) and hoping it won't last all weekend!
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05/23/08, 09:29 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by bajiay
Don't feel bad. I've done stupider things.
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...Like the time a couple years ago when I didn't strap down a 55 gallon barrel of corn because I was just going to the neighbor's house. Bambi ran out in front of me so I applied the brakes a little hard (didn't SLAM them, though....). Said barrel slid forward and came through the rear window. I'm STILL picking corn kernals out of the back seat......
Hubby needs to lighten up.....
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05/23/08, 09:32 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Oggie
Tailgates take far less time to repair than bent feelings.
Perhaps your husband should watch where he's going.
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i'll second that! wife took on the front bumper of a kia last year, i did not get upset nor did the owner, she however, is still upset! hey no one was hurt and dents/paint chips just give character to a truck! may your hubby see th error of his ways..............before he backs into a vehicle!  fate has a funny way of dealing karma! 
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05/23/08, 09:32 AM
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Well, husbands can make mistakes too! I'll share a few from work that might help cheer you up.
I work with many ranch/farmer wife types. The first story, husband and wife came back from hauling cattle, and hubby unhooked gooseneck and then went around trailer doing a few other things. He realized the game was about to start, and headed back to the truck, absentmindeldly flipping the tail gate up on his way by. Jumped in the cab, put it in gear and took off - "WHAMM!" as the gooseneck tore off the tailgate.
Second one, the couple was moving and had borrowed a trailer. Wife was helping get it hooked up while Hubby was in truck. She told him she didn't think it was set down right, but he looked at it and said it was attached ok. She insisted, and he got mad and said he was the "expert" and it was fine. So she shut up and started to load the truck, lifting boxes over the side. Hubby saw that and asked why she didn't put the tail gate down. She said she was fine, but he put the tail gate down for her.
Then he went to get a box and start loading the trailer. She took a step back to watch. Her husband is near 300lb, and as he stepped into the trailer, the hitch popped off the ball and slammed up into the tail gate. She just said "told you so" and walked away.
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05/23/08, 09:39 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by ford major
i'll second that! wife took on the front bumper of a kia last year, i did not get upset nor did the owner, she however, is still upset! hey no one was hurt and dents/paint chips just give character to a truck! may your hubby see th error of his ways..............before he backs into a vehicle! fate has a funny way of dealing karma! |
I'll third that! My wife had gone to her sisters house a couple of years ago. She started to leave and backed up and heard this SCREEEEEEEEEEEEEECH. She'd backed into my BiL's truck and ran his bumper all the way down the rear quarter pannel of the van. I didn't get all ticked and start yelling...but I admit I did ask her how she couldn't see a bright green pickup in the mirror 
(((Mel))) glad nobody was hurt and that it was just minor damage. It'll be ok
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05/23/08, 10:04 AM
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Thank you all for the nice comments and cute stories. It does help cheer me up. At least I have a few hours of piece and quiet at the office today. As fate would have it -- it just had to be the new truck. Our son is having his first friend sleep over tonight and his birthday party is tomorrow so I just hope and pray he keeps his attitude and words in check. This weekend should be all about our son not my stupidity.
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05/23/08, 10:10 AM
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We've all been there, done that. Don't let hubby get to you....just wait until his turn comes, then give him an I told-you-so look and smile sweetly.
New trucks need to be dented so you aren't so worried about driving them!
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05/23/08, 10:18 AM
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you were mis fortunate, not stupid! if your hubby has never had an accident good on him! he is heading for a train wreck if he keeps going the way he is! to err is human, to forgive, divine!
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05/23/08, 10:42 AM
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I'm so glad no one was hurt. And everyone is human and makes mistakes or has an accident once in a while, that is just the way life is. No one is perfect and your DH should realize this. If he doesn't then he's just courting trouble to come to him one day.
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05/23/08, 11:36 AM
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Sounds like Hubby has some issues that are deeped than the scratch on the truck....
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05/23/08, 11:44 AM
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I can certainly understand being upset and wishing that my wife had taken a moment so that the new truck wouldn't have been scratched. I can also see spending a little brain time with the issues that will now have to be resolved, potentially with an insurance claim or the pocketbook. I can also understand being irritated at the situation, perhaps even angry that it happened. I can also understand feeling annoyed at my wife if she was prone to these types of accidents generally.
What I cannot tolerate is the bridging of these emotions TO my wife. She is my helpmeet and I love her. She matters more to me than the issue in the paragraph above. Missysid, if you asked your husband if you mean more to him than the truck or a little scratch, he would SAY yes, but he isn't living that way. If you are more important, then protecting your heart, keeping your relationship sound, and making you feel loved are ALL more important than the scratch.
All that said, your husband is acting as 80% (or well more) of males would act, and it isn't surprising. He'll get over it soon, but one day, he'll have to decide that his tantrums and coping skills are less important than your heart (read: he'll have to grow up).
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05/23/08, 12:52 PM
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I needed to haul some big heavy things for the PTA and used DH's new truck for it. Pulling one of the boxes out of the bed, it put a tiny scratch in the paint of the bed.
DH saw this tiny scratch and went ballistic! He forbade me to drive it again. Fine, it wasn't worth the grief.
He lost his keys. He comes to me and says he has lost his keys, and now can't drive his truck. I was sweet and sympathetic when I told him "Oh honey, that is terrible! Now neither of us can drive it!" Then I got into my car and drove away.
It was really sweet when he had to humble himself and ask me to make a copy of my key for him, and I got the right to drive the truck again too! It isn't new any more. It is13 years old and counting. And it has plenty of battle scars, most of which HE inflicted on it.
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05/23/08, 01:03 PM
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Just so I don't come off "holier than thou", I'll give an example that hurts my heart to this day... I am tearing up just thinking about it.
About six years ago I bought a large-screen TV from a friend. The 60" variety, rear-projection. I brought it home and we played some games on it as a family, for a couple of days. On day three, I noticed a deep and large scratch on the surface of the screen, perhaps five inches long. I lost my mind (quite literally) and yelled at the kids and wife... loud and long. I threatened the kids with spankings and demanded to know who had done it... and this went on for 30-40 minutes as no-one would 'fess up. Finally, my son (then 6 or so) admitted that he had done it. I asked him - very angrily - how he had done it and why. He said he didn't know and that he had used a nail, a brass one used for hanging pictures. Something in his demeanor and in his story gave me pause, even in my angered state, and I called my friend and asked after the TV. I asked about any scratches. He replied and said that there was one five-inch scratch and if it was a big deal, he would take the TV back.
I sat down with my kids, and apologized. I cried like a baby... what a JERK. I asked my son how he could admit to it and make something up, and he said, "I didn't want everybody to get spanked, and you were so angry". Yeah, real manly... my six year old son, showing me how to be a man. That moment still crushes me...
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I did something REALLY stupid. I had never ha a garage for my cars before I met my DH so it took some getting used to. Well 1 cold January day I got in the van, hit the door opener, saw daylight behaind me and backed out. CRUNCH! The garage door didn't go the whole way up!! I had no idea that when the temps are sub zero the door may stick. So now the van has a dent and the garage door is buckled. I was so worried that DH was going to be ----ed. Well the look on his face when he saw it made me laugh. He just scratched his head and said something about spoiling me might be a bad idea. Then he took me to dinner.
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