I am lonely.

[chickenista]

I still don't really know anyone here to talk to.. I know a few folks..and some of them even farm a bit.. but they have their lives and routines and no one rerally has room for a new friend.. except for the older gentleman, but it's not the same.
DH has been gone now for over 3 weeks and I don't know when he will get back... I will spend Mother's Day alone .. well.. I will have DS! And that is always good.
I spent Valentine's alone too this year.

I'll quit whining now.. I know I am just tired.. I worked really hard today.

[onthespot]

Hi Chickenista. For what it's worth, I think of you often and think of you as a friend. I know we barely knew each other, but... i like you. Sorry you are lonely. I caught that little black rooster again this morning, and thought of you again. I wondered if you wanted him, or any of the extra copper black marans roos I have since you are "into" black chickens... I know, it isn't much, but just know, someone in California cares, thinks of you often and wishes we were friends in real life.
Patty

[mamajohnson]

ahhh..... hard work and then a little whine.... you should be all set now!

Seriously, homestead life can be lonely. I think I make up for it in cyberspace. I actually talk to more folks from online than folks I know in person. (talk via internet and phone)
Try to look on the bright side of things and find all the good. It is far better to be content in what we have. I am not trying to chide you, just a little friendly advise.
I know with your DH gone, that will lend to the loneliness.
Perhaps you and DS need to go out for dinner on Sunday? Pamper yourself. Go to a lively place like Chili's and just enjoy yourself. Call up an old friend... that can also do wonders.

Sometimes we work too hard, and don't let ourselves relax.

[chickenista]

I really like living "alone". I can watch what I want on tv. I can make what I want for dinner. I can sleep all over the bed!
The house is very peaceful and quiet and I get more done...
But when I am as exhausted as I am tonight.. the negatives seep in.. come morning I will be chipper once again and relishing in my peace and quiet.
I am the odd ball that prefers to be alone most of the time.

[Queen Bee]

Sometimes, I find myself in the 'boat'. I am a sahw, dh works away from home alot. Our children are grown and are busy with their own families/lives. I have no real/close family left, dh's family seems to always have some drama going on --which I hate.. All the 'girls' I used to work with and do things with still work and they don't really care for the farm/garden/animal things I enjoy.

The lonely feeling seems to 'hit' me more, after I have been really busy, I am tired and have no one that I can chat with about what I am doing/have done..

So, here's a hug... And know tomorrow will be brighter and better...QB

[mamajohnson]

See there! lots of positives!
I love being alone. The kids can hang around, and I don't mind. But I don't like visitors! I don't like leaving the property either. I hate errand days.
So I am usually very content to be home and alone.
You will feel better after a hot bath and good rest. Go enjoy a good sappy movie!
(I usually watch those with my eyes closed and snoring a bit lol!)

[MisFitFarm]

I like you, too! We have a lot in common, and the invitation to visit Kentucky anytime you want is still open. Black Chickens are my favorites, too, by the way.

There is no one close to me who shares my Homesteading interests, so I don't know what I would do without all of you here on HT!

[chickenista]

I don't know what I would do without all of you her on HT![/QUOTE]


True That!!!! Thanks you guys!! I swear on the days that the computer is acting up or something.. I about go nuts. And heaven forbid you miss more than two days.. you will never catch up And things happen so fast with us all.. new babies and grandbabies and foals and kids and chicks..and crazy neighbors... I love my HT home and family!

[GrannyG]

I love it when I can just have a few hours to myself on Saturday....don't have to work for someone else that day, just do my own chores, and sit in the garden and watch the martins and the other birds WORK at feeding their broods...love to dig in the dirt, see how much growth my plants have, go hug the goats and get goat kisses...LOL...I have hobbies but not time to do them, love to do scrapbooking or stained glass, so much to do....so little time. I find myself pouring through cookbooks and recipes...I just don't seem to care if anyone else is around. I am a loner I guess.

[tamsam]

Hey you also have a friend here from WV. Just wish you were close enough to come visit or us stop by your place for a cup of coffee. I may have asked before but where in the foothills do you live? All my kids live around the Charlotte area. Have a very nice week end and as some one else said, treat yourself and son to a favorite meal or movie this week end. {HUGGGSSSS} Sam

[Murron]

Chickenista ~ I know were're waaay far away... but you're my friend, girl! And I'm sorry that you're feeling lonely. Not much help, but I feel it here too, and I've been out here with DH for two years. He works (and I'll be back full time soon), so I have a few days... and nights... all by myself. I like it, but yeah, I feel "out there" quite a bit.

At least we don't have any wolf spiders up here.

But I sure would be lost without my HT family!

[ELOCN]

Poor Baby! I know when I'm tired or sleep-deprived, anything that's hurting me hurts me much more. I am praying for you!

[Barnyard]

we live in very rural area too. first winter was hard. but i got used to it and developed some internet friends whom i write with and so on. i kind of like it this way. don't have to stop what i'm doing to entertain, give a ride, babysit, interrupt an important project that is finally getting done..etc..not that i'm unfriendly, not at all. but DH works 24 hr shifts, so its just me and son at home to do all needs done. and homesteading is work. but the afternooons we relax in the yard, and when i can sleep in and do what i want or need to here, has become my preference. i have all the drama i can stand dealing with animals and fighting weeds in the garden..hehehe..if i get too awful bored, i take my boy to see his brother in big city. man we are thrilled to get back home!

[MorrisonCorner]

I'll chime in with "thank heavens for internet friends" from here too. I really think this place saves my sanity every now and then!

If you are history buffs you might get a kick out of knowing that a lot of photographs from the settling of the great plains states, where you'd have women and their families outside their soddy houses, included... a canary in a cage. Someone finally got curious about this and started researching and interviewing. It seems that those canaries were carried by salesmen and they were adored by the women who got them as cherished companions. They were the one bright spot in their lives, singing and "loving them" when they had no other companionship. Grand and great grand children remembered elderly relatives refusing to give up old cages, or carrying little boxes with the bodies in them.

Obviously the "lonely in the sticks" thing is not new!

[PonderosaQ]

I hope you wake up this morning feeling brighter.Being worn out can do that to a person.
Please do something special for yourself for Mother's Day.I am in the same boat you are re:friends. I have been here 4 yrs now and still don't know anyone to call. As you have said others are just so busy with their own lives.Nice to read the other replies and know I am not alone in that regard. Thank goodness we all have each other. Hope yesterdays rain in your area is over and you can get outside and enjoy the day,

PQ

[ChasingDreams]

(((hugs))) I'd be really lonely without dh home, too... I hope today is better for you.

[ceresone]

My Goodness--I think we're all a bunch of hermits! Kidding, hubby was over the road trucker for over 20 years--I love being alone, I dont like visitors, I dont want to get away from the farm-even if its just to the grocery store.
But, life intrudes, must take hubby to Dr. today, go to the feed store, then grocery store-and Yes, I want to whine too--I like the quiet. Think I could live in solitary confinement, if I could have lots of books-and a diet coke!
And OP, you have lots of friends, may this old woman be one?

[PineRidge]

Chickenista, you have another friend in WV. I think of you often when I'm taking a walk, all because of the post where you described Appalachia, and the way the mountains are like protective arms around you.... I feel the same, just could never put it so well.

I get lonely for a friend sometimes, then reality smacks me and I realize that right now I don't have the time to BE a friend. And, well, I like being alone too.

But HT is great when I get tired of listening to my own voice rattle around my head.

If you can't afford to go out for Mother's day with ds, let (or help) him make a cake for you.

[gone-a-milkin]

Reading threads like this make me almost cry. People on this forum are so generous and thoughtful.

p.s. I like you too, chickenista! (although I like B&W chickens..)

I think that if it just would really RAIN at your place, you would be rejuvinated!

[chickenista]

Today I feel a bit better.. it was the Mother's Day Tea at DS's school. All so very sweet and I got cool stuff from DS too.. potted seedlings, a silhouette picture and a card and a pot holder with his little hand prints on it that I will never let touch a hot pan...
It was lovely. Now he is home and playing outside and I am going to get busy soon.. I was so tired last night that I didn't even watch Lost! I DVRed it though.
But hanging out with all the suburb moms makes me ok with the fact that I only have one or two folks here I talk to
I would much, much, much rather hang out here with all my homesteading buddies that understand me and the trials and tribulations of squash bugs, raccoons, stupid dogs, dirty kitchen floors, poop..etc. Especially the poop!