Which would you choose?

Heidi's_Goats · #1 02/26/08, 07:16 PM

Choice #1
Fully paid trip to Phoenix, AZ. First class seats all the way. Free stay as long as needed at the Marriot. Free rental car. $150/day stipend. All medical expenses paid at 100%. One of the top Level III NICUs in the country. Husband will have coach tickets round-trip to visit. I will have to be on bedrest, alone most of the time for over 5 weeks. Not be able to see my children until the babies are released from the hospital. About 5-8 weeks.

Choice #2
Free coach ticket to Anchorage, AK. Hotel paid for if I am staying in it. Medical expenses paid for at 75% from primary insurance. The remainder paid for through Medicaid. No rental car. Bedrest for about 5 weeks, alone. My children can drive down to see me on occasion. This is also a Level III NICU. Stay about 5-8 weeks.

This weekend I will be in Anchorage. Babies have lost fluid. We may be delivering soon. Prayers very welcome!

AngieM2 · #2 02/26/08, 07:21 PM

With #1 will there be internet connection with a video camera where you could video see and visit with your other children?

And it sounds as if no charges would be coming to you and the family, but sounds as if there would be bills coming in from #2 choice.

Difficult decision.

Angie

Funnyfarm · #3 02/26/08, 07:26 PM

Choice 1 because of no expenses but,it is hard to be away from your kids but you have to consider the babies your carrying too. I'll pray for you and your family.

brownegg · #4 02/26/08, 07:30 PM

I think what you feel the best about is the right decision for you. If it was me, I would choose trip one to avoid any expense.

Tracy Rimmer · #5 02/26/08, 07:35 PM

Personally, as hard as it might be, I'd take choice #1. You're supposed to be concentrating on your health and the health of those babies you're carrying, and you won't be able to do that if you're worried about medical and associated expenses. The fact that it's also one of the top NICU's in the country would sway me, too. My youngest spent a couple of weeks in NICU, almost died, and I'll tell you that NOTHING is worth more when you're standing there beside your baby than knowing that the professionals standing with you are the BEST there are. NOTHING.

Besides, five weeks will go by quite quickly -- and assuming you have reliable care for your older children, everyone will be fine.

We women sometimes think that we're indispensable -- we're not. Especially when our health is in question. Take care of you, take care of those unborn babies, and do what you have to to make sure that going forward you're in the best situation possible.

fishtrap3 · #6 02/26/08, 07:43 PM

I would go with #1 also... no cost to you..

jen74145 · #7 02/26/08, 07:46 PM

Ditto... and praying.

RockyGlen · #8 02/26/08, 08:05 PM

#1, for all the reasons stated above a

3sunz · #9 02/26/08, 08:49 PM

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Originally Posted by RockyGlen

#1, for all the reasons stated above a

I agree

manygoatsnmore · #10 02/26/08, 09:11 PM

#1 gets my vote, too. Take the very best care of those precious little ones and of yourself. Make sure you have a computer and video cam - great wifi at the Marriott.

AngieM2 · #11 02/26/08, 09:16 PM

and if you have a computer... maybe we, at HT, can help keep you company...

Angie

Miz Mary · #12 02/26/08, 09:23 PM

#1...and buy pre paid cell phones !!! can you borrow a laptop and take it with you ?
It WILL go by fast ...... can somebody stay with you at the Marriott ?? "caretaker" person?

Dorothea · #13 02/26/08, 10:49 PM

i would do #1 as well..

Lizza · #14 02/26/08, 11:21 PM

I agree with everyone else, #1, but do try and borrow a lap top to go with you to keep in close contact with your other kiddos. This kids will miss you but you need to focus on the ones that need you the most right now, the ones your carrying. Hugs and prayers coming your way from Oregon. I'll be thinking of you in these coming weeks.

Common Tator · #15 02/27/08, 12:58 AM

Well, I would go with #1 for financial reasons, but whatever you choose, my prayers are with you!

midwsthomestead · #16 02/27/08, 05:08 AM

I'd take option number 1 as well.

Once this is over and the babies are safely here, the whole thing will be worth it and your kiddos will hardly remember your absence--as young as they are--they'll be busily initiating the new siblings to y'all's world!

Trying times, to be sure, but you can do it!

~~

sewsilly · #17 02/27/08, 07:29 AM

I can see the dilemna... Having spent a nearly three weeks in Phoenix, and probably, for me, depending entirely on the arrangements for the other kids, I'd go there.

I have had a medically enforced separation from my children, who were a little older than yours. I wrote LOTS of notes, sealed them in envelopes. They got one each evening (bedtime is a special time here) and I had a few for 'just when I'm missing mom". Most of what I said in there was meant to reassure them, and I felt better for having done it as well. Even now, nearly 6 years later, the youngest has the letters in his desk drawer. With younger kids, I might do a photo thing.

If you deliver earlier than planned, the time that you'd be on bedrest might be shorter.

For now, and until we hear how things are, I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
dawn

Ashtina98 · #18 02/27/08, 07:39 AM

Only you know what the right decision for you is. Having said that it sounds like option #2 also has everything paid and the medical care is equal to that in Phoenix and your kids can come see you, if it were me then I would choose option #2. The only difference I see as far as cost to you is rental car, but again only you can make a decision as to what is right for you. I'll keep you and your family in my prayers, I know what you are going through (except I didn't have little ones at home when I had mine), hang in there!

Dee

celticfarmgal · #19 02/27/08, 10:08 AM

Choice one my aunt is a neo-natal pediatric nurse in PHX its a top notch place. GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS!!!!

giometriks · #20 02/27/08, 10:57 AM

Phoenix is beautiful this time of year.

Suzi