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09/16/07, 08:14 PM
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Home Tours for company anyone else uncomfortable with this?
When people come to your new home do you give them the grand tour? Bedrooms and all? I didn't have a problem with our close family but some of my husband's family we see once a year (if that) and I don't really feel like letting them look at my personal areas - bedroom, bathroom and even the kid's bedrooms. I like to keep people to the main living areas, DH on the other hand doesn't care and is proud of our new home, likes to point out design etc so walks everyone through the whole place. Hubby thinks I am being a little too private...maybe I am, I am also of the opinion that asking someone what they do for a living is rude and most people don't care about that either.
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09/16/07, 09:10 PM
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09/16/07, 09:16 PM
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I am very private and would only show my bedroom, bath and office to very close family. I still have to tell myself it's ok for my inlaws to use my bathroom if the others are in use!  Dh is like your dh--he shows way too much for me...  Queen Bee
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09/16/07, 09:25 PM
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This drives me nuts too. My in-laws think they need to bring all of their out-of-town visitors to our house so I can feed and entertain them and show them my gardens, flowerbeds, chickens, and house. It's my own fault, though...I keep letting them in. But, I really don't know what's so exciting about a 1965 brick ranch.
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09/16/07, 09:56 PM
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I generally keep the bedroom door closed. Most people don't care about getting past the public areas, bathroom, kitchen, living/dining, computer room. My kitchen is kind of different, and that stops people. Then there's the view, as our living is on the second floor and we have a great view in the back of woods, to the west of our pond, and to the east of our sheep and donkeys.
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09/16/07, 10:01 PM
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Well, my house is *not* what you would call a show place. And, I never have people over. However, I would not want people in my bedrooms. I think anyplace else would be fair game, but bedrooms are private, personal spaces and should be treated as such by guests.
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09/16/07, 10:07 PM
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If someone is visiting my home..I treat them like family. They can open the fridge, grab a plate out of the cabinet.. it's all good. They can see whatever. And if you are visiting and think me rude for not grabbing a plate for you..I'm sorry, it's not intentional, I just thought you would grab it.
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09/16/07, 10:11 PM
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I would show them the downstairs....our bedrooms are upstairs
close friends or family have seen the upstairs too though
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09/16/07, 10:22 PM
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While I don't do the "grand tour" I will show guests around. I shut my bedroom door tight but leave lights on in the kitchen, dining room, and bathroom as a courtesy. If I am having a crowd I put food and drinks in the dining room. If its a few friends I show them where the fridge is especially if they brought something to drink.
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09/16/07, 10:34 PM
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Some folks that come over are interested in tours, at least on the initial visit anyway, and others could care less, we know our visitors interests and host them accordingly.
Overall, our guests stick to the main areas, kitch, dr, lr, bath.
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09/17/07, 12:22 AM
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If I know they're coming a few days ahead I really don't mind. Especially if it's family and they haven't visited in a while.
But times like last week, our neighbors e-mailed to say they would be dropping by for a rabbit- hubby had butchered rabbits and they buy rabbit from us- we sat around the kitchen table chatting and enjoying a snack. Ds was showing off his latest Lego creation and they were really interested in it so son says: "come upstairs and I'll show you what else I'm building!"
Oh no, down stairs looked fine but I never thought in a million years they would go upstairs. Son's room was a disaster! He'd emptied ALL his Legos on the floor so that he could find pieces easier. Also someone had just given us three huge bags of clothes their boys had grown out of and I had those piled on the bed and chair in various stages of being folded and put away.
I wanted to crawl into a closet somewhere!
They just thought it was great that son is so into "inventing".
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09/17/07, 06:16 AM
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We have the benefit of having the bedrooms on the upper level, and the laundry room in the basement. The main level has all of the public rooms, plus a bathroom, so I usually don't have any trouble keeping company in the "company ready" rooms. I don't mind being giving the grand tour of other people's houses if they feel inclined to give one, but I'm honestly there for the people, not the furniture!
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09/17/07, 06:21 AM
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I have had a tendency to show off a house to friends after a move, but after that, I guess I figure they really don't care?
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09/17/07, 06:30 AM
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I have always thought that the Grand Tour was a bit of in-your-face snobbery. I understand being "house proud" in that you keep the place tidy and such, but taking people on The Grand Tour always struck me as showing off... "look what I possess" type behavior.
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09/17/07, 08:16 AM
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Casual visitors I show the downstairs, family and close friends see the upstairs, at least once.
I don't see it as housepride at all - my family is into old houses, we all live in them, and most of us renovate. So everyone wants to see what you've done lately, how it came out, hear about the problems, discuss what you could do with the decaying woodwork, how to improve the R value, etc... I actually love taking my family through my house, because I always get great ideas for new projects.
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09/17/07, 08:30 AM
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Dh built our house and it is beautiful.. I show if off to anyone that is a house guest. I find all people just peek, briefly, into the bedrooms and will not enter. I have to encourage them into the guest bedroom to show them the cedar closet. I show the whole house and people have always been very polite.
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09/17/07, 08:36 AM
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Ive found the easiest way to stop a home tour is to hang restraints and a cat of nine tails on the front door
yes Im joking if such things were in our home my wife would be a widow
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09/17/07, 08:51 AM
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Originally Posted by Sharon in NY
Casual visitors I show the downstairs, family and close friends see the upstairs, at least once.
I don't see it as housepride at all - my family is into old houses, we all live in them, and most of us renovate. So everyone wants to see what you've done lately, how it came out, hear about the problems, discuss what you could do with the decaying woodwork, how to improve the R value, etc... I actually love taking my family through my house, because I always get great ideas for new projects.
Sharon
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Ditto, ditto, ditto...
I adore my old house and (since I've only had it for about a year and a half now) there's always improvements to be seen. Everybody got the grand tour when we first bought the house, but not since. I haven't worked on the upstairs yet though. When I start up there I probably will encourage people to check it out again.
RedTartan <- lives in an 1825 Colonial Revival
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09/17/07, 09:12 AM
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Since I have to have decided you are a friend before I invite you inside my house, once you're in the front door I expect you to make yourself at home. Besides, if you check out the rest of the house, just maybe you'll take my side in the debate on how much "stuff" one should keep or not
Marlene
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09/17/07, 09:52 AM
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we get more requests too go through the barns, milk parlor, shop and to go see the dogs, sheep and horses than we get too see the houses! hard to explain bio security and insurance issues too some folks! depends on who the folks is, not comfortable showing strangers our stuff, long time friends, they are better than some family members.
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