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04/27/07, 01:48 AM
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I'm confirmed mean and nasty
A couple of days my daughter's 6yo friend came to play. He comes most weeks and can be a handful. I have looked after him quite a bit over the years and made the decision a long time ago that he will live by our rules when he is with us. He is usually a lot better with us and knows that I mean what I say. his mum looks after our dog if we go away at all and I know for sure that he feeds her titbits by her beaviour when she comes home LOL
Anyway, I have told him over and over that she doesn't get titbits, and I have told him over and over that he is not to tease her. He listens politely, says ok, and next time he comes he does it again! So.......
Wednesday I caught him sitting in front of the dog with a biscuit (English variety) in his mouth and waving another biscuit up and down in front of the dog's nose. the conversation went as follows
me - right L (his name) give the dog the biscuit
L - what you want me to give her my biscuit?
me yes - you have offered it to her so give it to her
L - what now?
me - yes, give her the biscuit
he gave her the biscuit
L - can I have another one now please?
me - no, you just gave your biscuit to the dog, we don't tease animals in our house
L - but D (my daughter) had two
me - so did you, you chose to tease the dog with your's and now she's eaten it - tough
LOL - poor kid was in shock. I don't think he will forget that one in a hurry
mean and nasty or what ?
hoggie
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04/27/07, 03:49 AM
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sounds good to me
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04/27/07, 04:40 AM
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Originally Posted by hoggie
LOL - poor kid was in shock. I don't think he will forget that one in a hurry
mean and nasty or what ?
hoggie
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Yep. And seeing you and the dog giving each other the "high five" afterwards was just icing on the cake. 
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04/27/07, 04:42 AM
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That's awesome. 
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04/27/07, 07:25 AM
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I can't think of anything else to do in that situation. You are in a circle of "mean and nasty" moms here I think. Yeah for us and good child rearin!!!
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04/27/07, 08:09 AM
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Well, if you're mean and nasty, then I too was a thoroughly mean and nasty mother. And proud of it, as you should be.
I must say I'm very glad you saw it through with this child, and let's hope he learned a lesson from it. Several lessons, actually!
One of the worst mistakes parents make is NOT meaning what they say. Too many times 'no' means 'yes', and oh brother - do kids capitalise on it!
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04/27/07, 08:36 AM
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That was awesome! My children would have received the rod of discipline for breaking one of my Three D's (disobedience, disrespect, dishonesty). However, as it was a neighbor's child, I think you may have left a lasting impression that will positively influence said child in the future. Good call!
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04/27/07, 08:42 AM
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Well done, hoggie! Of course, I'd have made the kid give up both.... but I need to learn to be a nicer person.
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04/27/07, 08:50 AM
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Way to go ... Long over due ... hope he learn something from this ! ! !
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04/27/07, 09:13 AM
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Way to go hoggie, I absolutely hate it when children tease pets and if their parents aren't going to teach them manners, I'll certainly insist they use them in my house.
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04/27/07, 12:11 PM
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Good job! Someone once posted a "Meanest mom in the world" piece that was excellent. I printed it out and taped it to the fridge. The kids loved that piece too and we shared it with a number of other mothers. Hopefully he will learn a little bit about how to treat others and how to accept the concequences of his actions. So many parents refuse to teach their kids these things and our society is much the worse for it.
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04/27/07, 12:16 PM
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Good for you, Hoggie! 
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04/27/07, 12:56 PM
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The shocked look on the kid's face guarantees that he will not forget this and LEARNED something! Yay!
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04/27/07, 01:20 PM
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Great lesson for him...and for you.
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04/27/07, 01:31 PM
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Wow - you're good...!!!!
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04/27/07, 03:17 PM
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Thanks for the support folks
I must admit we have had our ups and downs with this kid. When he first started coming to us he had had a lot of problems - about three child-minders refused to have him any more (I know one was because he had hit a kid with a stick), I don't know what caused the others to refuse to have him.
Anyway I have always been pretty firm with him, but it took me a while to figure out that he is one that thrives on attention, even if it is being told off for something. He also relishes getting other people in trouble. A while back he went through a phase of winding up my daughter. He is a full year older than her and he figured out that the one thing that drives me nuts is kids wingeing. I have always tried not to always take her side, so he figured out that if he needled quietly, she would get told off because as she got frustrated she would started whining. It ended up a total nightmare until the day I banished him to sit on the trailer when he wound her up LOL. He went and pulled a lip thinking it would get him attention but there was no-one to sympathise. After that he worked out that that wasn't a good game to play LOL
I have found with him that if you hit him suddenly with something unexpected that gives him absolutely no attention, he gets the message. Unfortunately for me, because I know his history (he has had a bit of a troubled past) I tend to always try to play nicely first. If he ignores the warning signals then I jump on him.
glad I'm not alone in wielding a big stick sometimes
hoggie
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04/27/07, 06:24 PM
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He probably didn't even know he was doing anything wrong. Now, he knows. Good for you.
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04/27/07, 06:30 PM
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Now that is parenting Good job!
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04/27/07, 06:36 PM
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LOL I just did that to my 4 yr old DD this evening. She was teasing the dog with the last few bites of her cookie. She thought it was funny to watch the dogs face follow the cookie as she waved it in the air. However she didn't find it too funny when I made her give the cookie to the dog. Way to go Hoggie.
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