Whats up with B Cosby ...

Ardie/WI · #41 12/18/14, 02:55 PM

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Originally Posted by okiemom

40 years ago there really was no such thing as "date" rape. 20 years ago it was little know and very rarely punished. 4+ years on a college campus told me that along with a similar experience that happened to a friend. She was drugged and didn't press charges as she was not really sure what happened and would not go to the campus police as they were sure to cover it up. If a jock did something it really was hushed up. I lived in the sports dorm and saw many other stories that were gross abuse.

It was at a friends house party and everyone was so busy having fun/drunk they didn't notice what had happened right in the next room. That is pretty ballsy if you ask me. Yes she is/was a good girl, but very naïve and trusting, and it has caused long term damage.

Unfortunately, some girl have not been taught personal awareness or how to protect themselves from predators. I know her parents never gave her the talks. My parents never gave me the talks, but that was something I was told early on when in a group to never let my drink, even soda or water, out of my sight ever. How sad is that? It is not just girls that need to be taught how to protect themselves or treat the opposite sex. I was lucky, I don't trust easily my friend did.

I remember talking to my DD about such situations. I told her that if it doesn't feel right, it isn't right. I added "get the heck out of there!.

okiemom · #42 12/18/14, 03:53 PM

thank you for not being too embarrassed not all parents were that open. Mine might have given very vague generalities. My dad said " don't feel "sorry" for guys" what ever that meant at the time. I needed specifics. I got them from other classmates who had BTDT and even who to avoid, kind of like the weird family member/friend that some have.