Dealing with a Difficult Co-worker

He shouldn't have shouted at you. But, he was right about the drying rack. The health dept will deduct 10pts from an inspection for that around here. I know our church cafe was always really picky about how you handled doing dishes from the sanitizer to the water temp to the drying rack, etc. It is due to the stringent inspection system of county health depts.

But he should have handled it in a much better way, by explaining the correct procedure to you and why it is done that way.

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Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.

:Some people aren't nice to begin with.

I am nice until you push the wrong button. Most people that know me know better than to get high handed or bullish. I am not a politcally correct person. I am when I am here... Most of the time. I don't want Angie getting mad at me.

I worked all my life in construction. A good part of that time I was a Foreman or Construction Super. I treated the people working with me as I would want to be treated. It works most of the time.

A time that it didn't work that person re-thought what he wanted to do too me and quit the job. Two days before he had put a fellow I knew in the hospital. The guy who quit and his buddy beat a fellow carpenter and fisherman. That guy spent several days in the hospital.

I wouldn't do well if I was in your shoes. I am kind of like KUNG but probably not as patient or nice. If your nice I will gladly help but .............. One look from me tells you where you stand....


"Some people you mess with and some people you don't. I am a don't."

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":Some people aren't nice to begin with."

I always find that idea funny, at least the difficulty people have with facing it. Many people easily admit there are very nice people around, but they seem to have some difficulty facing the fact that there are some jerks around who get pleasure from causing other people pain and distress. I see it as just one of those "balance" things. If there are extra nice people around, then why can't there be the opposite kind?

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"I don't want everyone to like me; I should think less of myself if some people did."
— Henry James

My wife adheres to the idea that some people carry themselves in a way that says, "Don't mess with me!" Sometimes they are even very cordial, friendly people, but others steer clear of making them angry or pushing their buttons.

I am obviously not that kind of person, even though my wife says some people she had spoken to think I am unapproachable or arrogant, even though it's more "shyness" or the fact I don't always walk around with a smile on my face.

For instance, people I work with have no problems telling me what they don't like in general or don't like about me or how I do things.

I just had another co-worker at my second job ask me why I do something the way I do it. He says he wasn't angry, but he was obviously bugged by it since he brought it up. Of course, he told me that he didn't expect me to change anything, but just wanted me to be aware of how what I was doing was coming across to him and others (according to him). But when it gets right down to it, he expects change. Now I feel like if I don't change it, I'm just a jerk for not "getting along" with others.

It's funny, I run into this type of situation all the time. They act like they are "cool" with how you are doing things and just want to give you something to chew on. They present themselves as open-minded and that they subscribe to the philosophy "to each his own", but really they expect conformity or they wouldn't have mentioned it. I am actually the open-minded one, because I am frequently bugged by things my co-workers do, but I just go with the flow and let them be.

There is a type of people that actually believe that if they tell you to change that you will because you want them to approve of you! Then they get huffy because you didn't obey them or whatever power they assumed they had over you. Whatever happened to "I'm OK; You're OK?"

As I mentioned earlier: I worked in construction as a carpenter; foreman and Construction Super. Everyone needs to work together to get things done right and on-time. It is truly a team effort. You don't get team work without being part bof the team or being a team leader.

I had a lot of guys who always wanted to work with me. And many wanted me to work for or with them. I think that says something.

That doesn't mean you put up with abuse. And by the way, I wouldn't let anyone abuse other workers especially apprentices or women workers. Not on my watch!

I was among other things: A Boy Scout Leader; BSA Council Silver Beaver Award reciepiant; Senior Warden of my church; Acolyte Coordinator and instructor; a member of the Diocese Committee; Trustee of my carpenter's local; Head of the Trial Committe. You don't get into those positions by being stand offish; unfriendly or untrustworthy.

People know who and what you are by your actions and your word. Some of those positions I listed required people who stood up for what they believe in. Men and women are judged by actions and words fulfilled.

There isn't room for bullying others to make yourself feel better.

I guess in the out of control "politically correctness today you can't call it as you see it. Like I said, I wouldn't do well in an office environment with some over bearing bullying type person.

Good luck...................

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GUNS DON'T KILL PEOPLE ANYMORE THAN PENCILS MIS-SPELL WORDS

GUNS DON'T KILL PEOPLE ANYMORE THAN SPOONS MAKE ROSIE O'D FAT.:eek

WHY DON'T THE MEDIA REPORT LIVES SAVED WITH FIREARMS? WH Pressure?