Daughter wants a tattoo!

No way!

If all her friends were playing Russian Roulette and she came and asked you if she could play too, would you let her?

I have no problem with tats... My wife and I both have them.... but 14 us WAY too young... .

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Why is it that kids never want to do something outside of themselves? Why don't their friends say lets go pick up trash, volunteer to read to elementary kids, send money to world vision of Gospel For Asia to adopt a 3rd world country child, etc.

Instead, it is so self centered, only on themselves.

Frankly, the narcissism in our country is sad to behold.

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Tell her when she's 18 she can make that choice for herself. In the meantime Henna is a really neat way of figuring out what she wants and where, or maybe she'll decide she doesn't even want one at all by then. Thing is, we change our minds all the time, and when you're that young to make such a permanent choice just isn't wise. She may really regret someday that you let her get one now :c

Good luck!

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Let me start with the fact that I have nine tattoos, so I'm certainly not against having them.

1. 14 is too young.
2. Never try to save money on a tattoo. Unless you can barter for it, maybe. This means no letting that one buddy do it, no going to a cheaper shop.
3. If you can't handle having people making comments about what kind of girl gets a tattoo, you can't handle having a tattoo.
4. No names of anyone who isn't dead or your child.
5. Even if you really like your tattoos, there will still be times you regret having them.

I agree, let her do anything non-permanent (henna, funny hair colors, piercings that don't involve gauging) but no ink until she's older. But, if she's still set on it, encourage her to look at the books of tattoo art, as there is some gorgeous work out there. Also, she should be able to give you a good reasonable explanation of why she wants that particular piece.

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I've never once had that happen....

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I am 33 now. When Iwas 13 I started harassing my dad for a tat. Mostly to get a rise out of him. He made me draw out what I wanted then said on my 18th birthday if Istill wanted it he would pay for it. I did and he did . I do not regret that tat. I thought about it for five years before Igot it. I just got my 2nd one this spring. Both are consealable, and Ilove both of them. Make her design it and hold out until she is 18

Have you yet told her that she is perfect already? That is a Dad's job.

Has she done any research into the effects of the chemicals used? Ask her if she would EAT those chemicals or DRINK them? If not, why would she inject them?
Point out also that having tattoos may limit her job opportunities.

I agree, how many bright idea's did you have at 14 that you thought were a good idea at the time?

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A couple of years ago, one of my students decided to get his last name tattooed all the way down his forearm - 2 inch letters. When it was done and he looked at it, a letter was left out of the middle of his name. Now, he has a squished letter in the middle of his name for eternity.

I didn't think 14-year-olds could even get tattooed legally! You can't at all until you're 18 in some states, and 21 in others.

And how do you know she hasn't done this too?

My uncle, who's in his 70s, has a huge scar on his forearm that looks like a burn scar, and when I was a little kid, I asked him what happened to him as little kids will do, and he replied, "I had a tattoo removed" in a tone of voice that told me, "Never, EVER get one!" Back then, he had to have the skin completely cut off and replaced with a skin graft. My dad doesn't even know what that tattoo was.

And I have read that people should not get commemorative tattoos for at least 5 years after the event.

No Shes too young.

I commend you for not imposing your own beliefs on your daughter Oldcountryboy and acknowledging your forgetfulness about the temple:P
Is there any chance you could agree on what she was to get IF you allowed it? IE. size, color, location...
Is there any chance you could turn it into a bonding experience and get a small one on yourself at the sametime?

meaningful tatoos are never fad, it's all about why and what it represents..

good luck.

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I can't believe how many people in this thread say to simply say no. Has everyone of them forgotten what it is like to raise a 14 year old? The hormones, mood swings, lifestyle choices, rebellion, and that is just what the teenager goes through. I had those parents that said "no" and "because I said so". I am the parent of a 15 yr old daughter that really wants to say "I told you so" when TSHTF. Host an open conversation with your teenager about getting a tattoo that makes you appear to be open minded and lets your daughter know you are listening to her. It will result in a better relationship with her. If you think she needs to wait until 18, have her write down what she wants and help her save it till she is 18. This way you didn't say no, you said yes ... in 4 years. No matter what your final decision, remember to present it to her in a way that keeps the doors of communication open between you. She is going to need her Daddy and her Mommy a lot more in the next little bit, and she nor you can afford to have her shut you out this early.

No it's not, saw news article not long ago where a mother got charged for negligence for letting her 16 year old get a tattoo.

http://www.permanentmakeupsociety.co...iaStateLaw.htm

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A parent can and should say no. Saying yes and giving in allows kids to run over their parents and other adults...it's part of the reason the world is the way it is, no ground rules and people are afraid to say no.

Don't be afraid to say no, it's your job until they decide to move out on their own. Any less is poor parenting.

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Yes parents should be able to say no, when it REALLY matters. Is this really one of those situations?

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Thank you Primal. My Dad said no tattoos, guess what, I have two of them and don't regret it at all, never have. There is a difference in parenting and controlling. Parenting means guiding your kids towards making the right decisions for themselves. Controlling is something else entirely.
When kids don't learn how to make decisions for themselves because parents just said yes or no without making the kids understand why, we get the world we have today. Look at our current political state. My generation was not taught to think for themselves, and we have a country full of sheep.