Would you expect a price break?

AngieM2 · #21 06/26/12, 06:37 PM

Good luck.

That's as much as small wedding cake, which I guess it sorta is.

That is a heck of a shower that's being planned. I just shake my head, cause I am astonished at the "loot" showers pull in.

You are being very nice.
And I'd sorta have been surprised that family did not throw in labor, not materials, for cousins' massive shower.

wr · #22 06/26/12, 06:37 PM

How close are the MTB and the cousin? I come from a fairly large family and I have cousins I see often and others that I haven't seen in five years so a discount would depend on how close I was to the cousin. Another thing that comes to mind is that perhaps this gal is trying to get customers for her cake business and the price she quoted was already as low as she can go without losing money.

shannsmom · #23 06/26/12, 06:40 PM

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Originally Posted by danir1968

she seems to think right now things will go back to normal after he comes.

hahahahahahahahaha!

AngieM2 · #24 06/26/12, 06:40 PM

wr - yep, I wonder if close cousins or distant cousins.
that would make a difference.

Did the honoree cousin know her baker cousin could make this cake? How did you find out about the baker cousin?
(I am a suspicious sort from time to time).

mnn2501 · #25 06/26/12, 06:45 PM

Personally I would have backed out when I was told she wanted a specialty cake - but thats me.

To answer your question, no I wouldn't expect a discount.

Laura Zone 5 · #26 06/26/12, 06:49 PM

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Originally Posted by AngieM2

do make sure that you and the baker have a clear understanding what constitutes a cake that "looks like a diaper cake". If she does not deliver, I would wonder about paying the price.

As to the beautiful wedding cake shown, I would not expect to pay for the hardware (except what is in only that cake) for making a cake as that is the cost of doing business and should be factored into the labor cost or in to the price of the materials.

That was discussed prior to the making of the cake, that she did not have the pans (25.00), and that she would deduct that from the total cost, because she was keeping them. She was told by the nice lady "oh no...I will pay for the pans and you can keep them".

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I find it hard to believe a cake is that much in ingredients, but that does not make me right about it, just astonished.

Top layer was lemon poppy seed cake with a lemon curd filling.
Second layer was red velvet cake with some sort of filling, I can't remember what it was.
Bottom layer was chocolate with a chocolate raspberry ganache filling.
The icing on the cake was 100% pure butter cream.
It was more than just eggs and flour! :-)

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The labor, I see cost in that cause those little flowers take some time. Especially the nice ones.

You have to make them, dry them, put them on stems, put them in styrofoam to travel to the site, then apply them to the cake on site. Otherwise they will shatter as they are very delicate.

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Out of curiousity, how many people is this cake suppose to feed and if you don't mind telling, at least roughly - how much for a cake such as this? What is it a white cake with frosting or fondant?

I'm totally curious.

ETA: found a link of actual diaper cakes: some really outlandish prices, but the ones near the bottom , are somewhat more basic, pretty and not so embelished. Baby Diaper Cakes | Baby Shower Diapers Cake | Boy Diaper Cake | Girl Diaper Cakes

So many folks see a sheet cake at Walmart for 25.00 and think its just wonderful.....and expect that all cakes are 'created equal'! :-)

DaniR1968 · #27 06/26/12, 06:51 PM

They are pretty close cousins and was already an invitee to the shower. MTB put cousin in contact with me when she realized I was having a hard time finding someone to make the cake and discussed with cousin some of the details, so cousin does know who it's for. Cousin did ask me what MTB wanted so not sure she knew before hand what was wanted.

The price she quoted was on par with what the local baker would charge if they were to do it. I do not know how long she has been in business. I would hope a while to attempt this cake!

It is going to be a pretty lavish party from what I can tell. She is very excited at the "loot" she will be getting. She's young!

scwit · #28 06/26/12, 07:13 PM

I've only seen the real diaper cakes-the ones you don't eat and in our area those are about $25-$35.
As for the real thing, I'd have no idea- thank goodness I've not had to deal with such pickyness from a MTB. Seems to me it'd be more practical to have a standard fare cake and have the extra money spent on something more useful like real diapers. But that's just me.
Anyway I hope the shower goes well and this young lady appreciates your generosity. Maybe she'll turn around and return the favor to someone else.

Maura · #29 06/26/12, 07:16 PM

Laura, when I ordered DD's wedding cake the baker and I sat down and discussed what she could do. We agreed on the flavors and the decoration. I was quoted a price. I don't understand why your DD didn't have a quote so there would be no sticker shock. Someone who has never bought a wedding cake (maybe sheet cakes like for graduation parties) could well be shocked by what a 3 tier specialty cake costs.

But, the nice lady should still speak to her!

Maura · #30 06/26/12, 07:17 PM

Dani, can we see a picture of the cake?

emdeengee · #31 06/26/12, 07:24 PM

If you were intending to pay $150 for a shower gift then there is no difference if you spend it on the cake instead. If this is beyond your intention then I would try to find another family member to go in on the cost with you and you could both present it. Unfortunately you may just have to absorb the cost. That is why you never volunteer until you know all the details.LOL! I have been caught this way before so I am very cautious because people have some unrealistic expectations.

Pony · #32 06/26/12, 07:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Danaus29

Sounds like you got set up and the cake (although will be just what the mother-to-be wants) will be not what you expect.

I think she meant "cite" - not "site"...

Miz Mary · #33 06/26/12, 07:37 PM

I thought a baby shower was thrown FOR the mother to be, not BY the mother to be ..... in which she should be grateful and thankful for ANY cake .... I wouldnt expect to get a discount from a family member if said person does it for a living ... SHE should have made the cake as her gift to the mother to be herself , IMO !!!
Now Im curous to see this cake too !!

farmwoman59 · #34 06/26/12, 07:39 PM

I have never, in all of my 50+ years, ever heard of the guest of honor picking out the cake they wanted at their shower. If someone is gracious enough to throw a shower in your honor, you accept what they provide in the way of refreshments.

This is a first for me!

ChickadeeL · #35 06/26/12, 07:41 PM

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Originally Posted by DaniR1968

. She seems to think right now things will go back to normal after he comes.

ChickadeeL · #36 06/26/12, 07:43 PM

All I can say is wow. Could you tell her that it just isn't in your budget and do your own more economical sheet cake? I mean, seriously....I have never heard of this before.

DaniR1968 · #37 06/26/12, 07:48 PM

Maura, the shower is in a month. I will take a picture of the cake and post it.

unregistered41671 · #38 06/26/12, 07:51 PM

Would you expect a price break?

No, not at all.

DaniR1968 · #39 06/26/12, 07:55 PM

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Originally Posted by farmwoman59

I have never, in all of my 50+ years, ever heard of the guest of honor picking out the cake they wanted at their shower. If someone is gracious enough to throw a shower in your honor, you accept what they provide in the way of refreshments.

This is a first for me!

Do they normally pick theme? She's very involved in the planning and has 10+ hostesses to pay for it! I have never heard of having more than one hostess.

She is the baby of the family and pretty spoiled. I think she expects at least one gift from me in addition to the cake and she won't hide it very well if she's disappointed about anything. She's really not a gracious person at all. I should have thought about that before opening my big mouth and telling her I would take care of the cake.

Danaus29 · #40 06/26/12, 08:03 PM

Pony, what I meant was mtb wanted a fancy smancy special cake that she knew would be hard to find. She knew her cousin would be willing to make it and she wanted to send some business to her cousin. Yep, all supposition and conjecture but had nothing to do with cite vs site which I did know was misspelled.

ETA, no, not standard procedure for the mom2b to plan her own shower and pick the theme.