Have we totally lost our mind?.. Family 2.0

Beware the 3rd child! For me and most of my friends the 3rd child was or is the craziest kid of the bunch. I can say this, because I was the 3rd child

All kidding aside, if you both want it go for it. I would love to have one more...but DH says no way.

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I was also the 3rd child (aka, the brat) somehow w/ our first 2 we ended up with no bedwetters, excessive 'I wanna sleep in your bed' kids or thumb suckers....we're in trouble this time

we hVE 4 KIDS 11,6,4, AND NOW 2. tHE 3 OLDEST ARE BOYS.I am so done with having kids. I would like a few years without having to change diapers, potty train or get up at 6 am.lol I figure in 10 yrs or so ill brobubly have graNDKIDS SO IM COOL WITH THAT

They also make you laugh more and make you earn your "I'm a bad mom because I just swatted my kid in Wal-mart" title

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I don't even chase my whiskey, what makes you think I'm going to chase you?

Ditto.

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I'm currently pregnant with our LAST. I can't imagine going back to have another one after the kids are independent! Then again, I despise being pregnant... it is most utterly miserable for me. I'm also not a huge fan of getting up at odd hours and diapers and all of that.

My little sister is 9 years younger than me and she has always said she will never ever do that to her kids. I agree. It was like she was a separate family and she never really quite felt like she fit in. My older brother was 14 years older than her and so he was already off to college when she was old enough to start wanting to fit in with the family. Us older 3 have jokes and memories of things we did as kids together, and she always felt left out because she didn't have siblings to have those experiences with. By the time she was old enough to make those memories, I was already a pre-teen and didn't really have much interest in doing kid things.

She's in her early twenties and even still she feels very set apart from the rest of us because we're all in such different places in our lives. It's gotten better the last year or so but I always felt like I just wished she'd been born a lot sooner.

So, I wouldn't do it myself If you feel you have the energy, then go for it! But I kinda think if you are gonna have one, you might want to think about having 2 more so they can keep each other company. Just keep in mind that having a 9-year space between the last two is a pretty big space, and it will make the younger seem more like an only child than one of the siblings.

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I allus planned for a 3rd (my plan was if married, to go for 4) Even paid my car payment and mortgage six moths ahead while I was waiting for Grandfatherbear to decide if he would marry me and my first 2 kids. If he had decided no you better believe I would 've been out thre looking for a sperm donor! There was 5 years between my daughter and my son and I was planning on 7 between my son and baby 3 (iffen I had been a single mom) I felt it was very important for each child to have its' own babyhood and plenty of unadulturated adult attention.
Grandfatherbear didn't want any more after we got married and the infertility workup after he reluctantly acceded some years later was a horrible experience. I really felt the doctors were not interested in us and were only in it for the money. I was terrified of menopause and the knowledge that there would never be any chance of any more babies from my body. I'm 61 now, and right now, after reading this thread, I'm feeling pretty bitter.
If you want more, have them. If you don't then one or the other should get snipped.

I would say you are not crazy at all!

Course I am also the one who spent the first 9 months of a pregnancy sicker than a dog. Loved every minute of it and would do it again if possible. LOL Not possible though so now I just enjoy others babies and wait for grandkids.

No, you aren't insane at all. Big families are a blessing of God, and 3 is not that many children at all.

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I've had the privilege of meeting you and your husband and your sweet girls. They turned out pretty darned good if you ask me. A third one would turn out just as good.

My advice: Just don't wait too long. My children range in age from 27 to 10. If you wait too long, then you become insane because you're so tired all the time from being old and still chasing little kids around.

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Married at 18, baby at 19, divorced at 20.
remarried and another baby when oldest was 12. Then another 22 months later.That makes 3.
The year my baby graduated..and yes I was looking very much forward to an empty nest..adopted my 4 grand kids.
I will be 65 when the youngest graduates.
If you want more kids I say go for it. As for me....the Christ child himself could end up on my door and I wouldn't raise him.

There's 8 years between my 1st and 3rd... and it was perfect. The third child is pure joy.

Go for it!

dawn

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yes, for some reason, 3 is the hardest number to have. When I had #4, everything became an assembly line and so much easier. We have always had stray kids around, lol, that just thought they belonged to us. My youngest is nearly 15, and dh said we are done because he wants to be able to do our thing. The problem is that my thing is with the kids.....I would love to have 2 more-not 1 because I don't do odd numbers anymore. I am just 40, and have a 12 month old grandson that I absolutely ADORE, so I reckon I will just have to deal... Problem is that I am the same age now that my dad was when I was born. My sisters are 17.5 and just shy of 14 yrs older than me, with 5 lost babies in between...

What fun! Go for it!

My husband died when our adopted son was 3 months old and I was pregnant with our birth son. I never remarried, so there were no more babies for me. The boys are both 21 now. Looking back, I wish now I had had (or adopted) at least one more child. I'm 50 now, so it's too late.

Good luck with whatever decision you make!
I had to stop at 2 children when I was 22 yrs old because of health issues but I've never felt cheated out of having more.
Now I have 5 grandchildren between the ages of 5 months and 13 yrs and I'm enjoying them all even more then my own 2 because I don't have the worries about their upbringing - that's up to their parents and my job is to spoil them...lol!

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A wise person speaks when they have something to say but a fool speaks just to say something

When we got married, I wanted 4 Hubby wanted 2. I got preg with my DD 4months after we wed. We planned DS to be 3 years younger. That was always perfect. I talked DH into trying to have #3. We tried and tried but it never happened. (I got pregnant on the pill for DD and in 2 weeks for DS) then I started having "problems", a couple of surgeries later and not one, but 2 different doctors, from different practices said I couldn't have any more children. A little dissapointed, but knew I had been blessed with 2 healthy children, so content. Fast forward 5 years, (7 years total) and I go for my yearly "womanly" exam and get told "CONGRATULATIONS!!" YOU told me I couldn't have any more!!! I just gave away all my baby stuff!!!! My "surprise" is 11 years and 8 years younger than her siblings. I am so glad I had her.

That being said, I am now a grandma of a two year old (I'm 47) and I know why God gives you children when you are young. I am too tired to do that again!

I used to read the blog of a pastor from Ireland named Colin Maxwell who is an Ulster Scot. In one of his posts he described himself as being "a wee late yin" (meaning he was born in his parents later years). When he was born, his sister was 10 and his brother was 18. His son was born 14 years after their daughter. Three years ago at age 51, when my sons were 25 and 27, we found out we were expecting our third child! At 20 wks we found out I was carrying a little girl! I had the most joyful pregnancy but at my age, I was a very high risk. My little daughter was taken to be with the Lord a month before she was to be born. I'd always wanted a third child since I was the third child out of four and was always sad to think of going through menopause. I'm eager to meet "our wee late yin" in heaven. That's what we wrote on her stone. I wish I'd had more babies while I was still young.

Children are a blessing from the Lord. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them!

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"Thou hast made us for thyself, O Lord, and our hearts are restless until they find their rest in thee..” --Augustine

You know, it's people like you and your hubby who should have children, because you want them.
Children are a blessing from God.
May you be blessed. LOL

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Update: Looks like we're along for a ride on the crazy train
#3 is due the end of June