could we start,,,,

A good start might be the movie "fireproof" it says far more than all of us can in these posts. A local pastor can probably get it for you or rent it, THEN you & hubby and maybe daughter watch it together... Prayers sent for you...

I like the idea of do something for myself .Today that will be my priority. I know I have been going on uncharged for quite some time now.
I am hoping hubby will come back recharged.
there is more to the story. Hubby has always been a very hard worker and a good provider. He hasn't been the most hands on dad or done much at home but he has worked long hours and I figured that he did his part by providing. He got laid off with 45 minutes notice after 11 years with the compnay.There is no hopes of being recalled. He also has hep c, he is one of the unlucky 1/2 with this illness that does not respond to the current meds. He has been in several car accidents and lives with alot of back pain, He is on some strong pain meds and I suspect they have taken away any motivation he once had. I do believe he is depressed and he is on meds for that. We have seen the fireproof movie. I did go to church Sun (awkward) and ask if I could set up an appointment.If nothing else maybe the pastor canhelp me with my surpressed anger.

Best wishes for this to get much better for you.

Angie

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You taught your daughter to do other things for living. Sit her down while dad is gone and tell her how you feel. Later in life she will thank you. When DH gets back have a talk with him. If you cont. he will let you. Marrage is a partnership. He needs to be a better partner. Do these things for your family as well as yourself. Prayers your way. If nothing else as others say. Take a break and they will have to do on there own.

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I did something for myself today. I didnt get a facial, go to the hairdresser or have a pedicure. I am not htat kind of lady.
I did talk with daughter. I told her she ios an adult and I expect her to act like one and to contribute. She told me she has given up...which is kind of funny because I never saw her try, I told her I am tired and will not be responsible for everyone and everything anymore. I told her how etenally frustrated I am but that just giving up on the housework,. the kids, the family, my life is not an option. Then I called her dad and told him I had talked to her. I told him I told her I was tired and wasn't going to carry this family anymore. I did tell him I was about to have a break down. We had a nice talk and he told me he would help more. That I wouldn't have to carry all of this anymore. We also talked about how he felt lost..going from a good provider to a,,,he wasn't sure of his spot in life. I DO understand. I am hopeful that this will put things in a different direction. While I am on a roll I am about to call my eldest and tell her that it is time for her to get on track so that although she will never be stable enough to raise her kids..she should at least be a trustworthy back up for me. That when I am overwhelmed they should be able to go see her for a weekend.
how's THAT for doing something for me today?
Thanks all who responded. I do so appreciate the listening ear and the great advice

Good for you!

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Good job

Praying for your family. I think a lot of folks are in your same position right now. It takes a lot of strength to get through the day but keep your stand and ask those around you for help--even the grandkids are old enough to help with chores!

Rose
As for my daughter taking the kids...I do not trust that they are safe when they are with her. She lacks judgement..hangs with the inappropriate, behaves inappropriate and everytime we have tried a weekend she does more damage to them. My greatest hope is that she can live up to her promise to be of some help to us..maybe some time in the near future

Try this, it works on my kids: "He who doesn't work, neither shall he eat." Proverbs-somewhere.

If they don't work, they don't eat. Eventually, they'll get hungry, and I bet it will be LONG before starvation. Hang in there. If you read the bible, read throguh the Proverbs. It's full of those nuggets.

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2 Thessalonians 3:10: For also when we were with you, this we declared to you: that, if any man will not work, neither let him eat.

I loved quoting that one to my children. It worked most of the time.

Proverbs does have a lot of good ones. A favorite of mine is Proverbs 6:9-11 (repeated in Proverbs 24:32-34): How long wilt thou sleep, O sluggard? when wilt thou rise out of thy sleep? Thou wilt sleep a little, thou wilt slumber a little, thou wilt fold thy hands a little to sleep: And want shall come upon thee, as a traveller, and poverty as a man armed. But if thou be diligent, thy harvest shall come as a fountain, and want shall flee far from thee.

And the ever popular Proverbs 6:6 - Go to the ant, O sluggard, and consider her ways, and learn wisdom.

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God bless,
Bonnie
Opportunity Farm
Northeast Washington

"While we have the opportunity, let us do good to all." Galatians 6:10