Curious about something

manygoatsnmore · #41 10/04/07, 07:28 PM

Actually, I think I said I knew about some folk's finances because they told me. Not just making wild assumptions here, just stating what I knew from the folks themselves. It is okay to disagree with one person's viewpoint without starting an argument or it being "silliness". That's what we call discussion, people!

If one does not wish a discussion, but rather wishes that all posters only agree wholeheartedly with one's stated premise, perhaps that should be clearly stated in the OP, or perhaps the thread needn't have been started at all on a discussion board.

In other words, let's play nice at Melissa's house.

edited to add: No problem, Dave, I think we are, as a society, still programmed to think of doctors as male or at least "docs" as male. You're not the first and likely won't be the last to assume DocM is male.

wombatcat · #42 10/04/07, 07:30 PM

I see the debt when our friends come over. One couple went to the convenience store and bought $40 worth of snacks for their kids

And then later, when we went shopping, and I explained that I wasn't going to buy that leather jacket "because we just paid off all our credit cards and don't want to start anything", the wife said "Yeah, I know what you mean, we only use ours in emergencies." $40 snack emergency?????? Later I did find out that they filed bankruptcy.

Also, though, my brother in law, who knows that I am rather frugal, brought his wife over and urged me to give her some tips, because their money was tight. So I just did a normal shopping trip for me--we went to the grocery store at 7:30am for the marked down meat. "Oh I wouldn't trust that stuff, there's probably something wrong with it". Then we went to Aldi for some basic canned stuff, but she wouldn't buy a brand she had never heard of. Then I stopped at Walmart for the cheapest generic coffee, to which she exclaimed "I wouldn't drink that stuff, it doesn't taste as good". And then she requested that we go back to the grocery store, and she spent $200 on name brand food, including steaks and high-end seafood, put it on her credit card.

I know what she and my brother in law make, they are both $8 security guards!!!! So I can sure see what the OP means. And I'm not nosy or anything, these things just happen, and I just make note of them. And learn from them.

Bink · #43 10/04/07, 08:04 PM

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Originally Posted by LisaInN.Idaho

I think a lot of it is envy and a form of reverse snobbery. I see a lot of it on here.

It may be a bit of backlash, too.
Some of us are looked down on for not buying the latest greatest expensive bauble, or for not guzzling Starbucks or not spending wads of $$$ to wear this season's fashion while riding a golf cart down to the mailbox.

If I were to do all that, I'd have to max out every credit card I could get, as one relative bragged (?) that they do. I can't see the point of it, though, because when the next new faddish toy comes along, they have to do it again. There's no stopping point, there's always something else.

ergoman · #44 10/04/07, 08:05 PM

No one has told her how smart she is, or that she must be a genious because she's a dr. after all. She started this thread to get into ANOTHER idealogical debate to show why she's #1

Did you notice the first line in her response to you Dave?

"Oh, thanks Dave, this is the exact drivel, er, informative posting I've been waiting for."

or after scolding us pee-ons who are too nosy and couldn't possibly be bright enough to see the depressed economy all around, her ego gets the best of her and she states the following:

"People with lots of money (like me) usually employ professionals with training to manage their money. I use a lively woman with years of experience at Morgan Stanley. She's excellent. I know how to do it, but it doesn't interest me, as it doesn't interest me to point out the obvious flaws in your logic."

She must be so rich that she has her own country, her signature says she even has her own flag, seperate from my country. I'm sure its a great place to live. Her sarcasm and giant ego are tolerated here, I'm sure mine isn't as tolerable, but then again I dont have my own flag either.

Melissa · #45 10/04/07, 08:14 PM

All right let's cut the personal attacks.

When I say someone is in debt "up to their eyeballs" it would actually be because I KNOW they are in debt. I am not envious of that at all as I avoid debt, don't want anything bad enough to go into debt for it. We paid cash for everything as we went along. At this point if I wanted to get credit for a new car/boat/condo etc... I know I could get it, but I enjoy freedom too much.

Maybe I am just the type that people talk to a lot, but I actually know many people who have told me they are in debt and they usually tell how much and how long they owe too!

Dave, I did not realize the California market was in such bad shape. You sound like you are doing well though.