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trixiwick · #21 03/02/07, 10:18 AM

Thank you for taking it in the spirit in which it was intended!

I think the "skunks on parade" just struck me the wrong way (and no, I don't have the striped hair

). I can just imagine how some folks would feel if they thought others were looking at them and thinking, "hicks on parade" or something similar. I don't think (as Marlene suggests in her post) that going out in public is an opportunity to compare youself with everyone else and see who comes out the "winner." Eek! That seems exhausting and really needless to me. If you're living a life you're happy with, then you're winning in the only way that counts, right?

Different things make different people happy.

We should all be grateful for that; otherwise, everyone would be after ONE homestead, ONE job, ONE husband.

Dianol · #22 03/02/07, 10:23 AM

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Originally Posted by tinetine'sgoat

Wasn't meaning to come across judgemental, but it may have. Just my minds ramblings about my comfort level. I probably make them just as uncomfortable because they can't relate to me either. That's ok, we are all individuals with our own feelings and ideas. I'm not sure I will ever be truly 100% comfortable in myself, but I am working at it. I think all of us at one time or another have a hard time grasping why others live their lives the way they do. And it is hard not to measure them against ourselves. All we can do is try, and it's ok to fail. Failing makes you reevaluate your options.

(p.s. you didn't bother me by your post. The more we listen to others thoughts the more we can learn about ourselves)

What a sweet considerate thread. You guys are great !

God Bless each one of you.

Dianne

Callieslamb · #23 03/02/07, 11:09 AM

I have really enjoyed reading your posts this morning. What good people you are! I shouldn't be surprised, should I?

Here are my thoughts - I too find myself stradling that line of "city" and "farmy". I make my own clothes and feel "homemade" often. Because I can't waste what I sew, I wear it even if it doesn't turn out quite like I pictured it. But because I straddle the line of two worlds I have to accept that I meet great people on both sides of the line. Many of those that have to dress just so ( I love the 6-9 mo comparison) don't judge those who don't care to paint their nails, etc. They are good people too. They are quick to give our compliments on my accomplishments, ask me about what I am doing, etc. They are just nice people.

I find that the best way for me to stay on an even keel is to not judge 'them' but think the best of them at all times. THEN, I can more easily believe that they are doing the same in my direction. I like the look of their nails - (clean) while knowing full well they would look ridiculous on my hands, especially while feeding my chickens or weeding! I admire people that can get their hair to do what they want - I haven't had the interest to perfect that. I don't choose to take up my time with the same things that other "girls" seem to like to do. I never have enjoyed 'girl' things. but not all of those not like me - judge me poorly for it.

There is room for all of us with our differing talents and outlooks on life. Aren't we glad we can live in a place where we can choose to be what we want?

Put a smile on that country-kissed face and BE happy. No one can resist that look - and they won't notice your nails.

Callie

longshadowfarms · #24 03/02/07, 12:03 PM

I had one of those days the other day too. I occasionally feel awkward but not often. Some people seem to be so bored that they shop just as a way to spend a day. My life is too full for that and for that I am VERY thankful!

pookshollow · #25 03/02/07, 12:04 PM

I can certainly relate to your feelings! I worked for years in offices and never really had anything in common with most of the women - or a lot of the men.

I remember when "Survivor" first came out, one of my co-workers was yattering on about the previous night's episode. I handed him a quarter. He looked at and asked "what's that for?" I told him to call someone who cared.

At the time, I didn't even have a television! In line at the grocery store, I look at the tabloids and I don't know who 90% of the people are on the front page - don't care, either.

Now we're in a very rural area, they know me by name at the feedmill, I fit right in at TSC. I shop for my clothes at Value Village (great deals! I always find something). DH's car had to be pulled off the road so he's driving my '02 Sunfire, and I'm driving the multi-toned '83 Ford van. I can't remember the last time I paid for a haircut - and I have no nails to speak of. Easier to keep them clean when they're short. Makeup? Never really did wear it much.

Now, some of these kids wearing the ultra-trendy "baby prostitute" fashions and the multi-piercings (ick) are actually very nice kids when you get to know them. I've had some on my bus, no problems with any of them. I do kind of wonder if they'll regret the choices they made a few years down the road - but it is their choice.